Advice on splitting finances in the uk
I 29M am talking to a Somali girl 29F and we both live in the uk and are getting to know each other for marriage.
I work a decent job and make £31000 a year, she has a professional role and I’ve googled that her salary is about £42000. I’m hoping I get a promotion at work which will get me to £34000 at the end of this year.
The issue I’m worried about is that with the cost of living, rent, bills etc I wouldn’t be able to financially support us on my income alone. She brought this topic up and asked how we would split roles and finances. I’ve told her that I wouldn’t want things to be done with naxariis so each person helps the other person out but ultimately things would be 50/50.
I really want to be an active father and very very close to my kids in the future inshallah and I’m willing to put all my effort into that role and wouldn’t leave all the work to her by herself. But she wants me to be responsible for all the finances by myself.
She also got a bit offended that I think I would be able to do 50% of the childcare because she would be doing the pregnancy and breastfeeding alone.
She has said she would be willing to help out with bills and pay for holidays but again, I don’t see how it would be right for her to keep the majority of her income when I would be struggling to provide and have less time with the kids.
Also she believes my salary would be sufficient for us and I don’t agree with that at all.
I think this is a bit selfish and I’m sure most other young couples in our situation don’t do this as it is not possible in this economy.
Looking to see what other people do. How do you guys split finances in your marriages?