how to be someone who gets noticed?
sorry if this is jumbled, i just finished a very long shift. i’m a good worker and a hard worker, i’m currently a server, but at previous jobs and even in school i’ve had the same problems.
i KNOW im a good server. my tip percentages are rarely below 22%, i’ve won all 3 contests ive competed in (up-selling, perfect check \[meaning drinks, apps, salads, entrees, and desserts on one check\] and tip percentage), i get good reviews, i make more than my coworkers 80% of the time. i don’t like gloating and bragging about it, but i feel like you all should know that im not just lying. i’m personable, i’m friendly, i’m outgoing, i try to make sure my tables feel seen if they have concerns, i make them laugh, etc. i’ve had 12 tables by myself and did fine. i pick up shifts and i stay hours late to help. my coworkers like me, we talk outside of work, we get dinner after. i’ve been told that if we’re in the weeds, then i’m best person for it.
obviously i have my flaws, sometimes im a bit late, sometimes i’m lazy and i’m easily distracted. i haven’t heard anyone say anything they want me to do better, ive even asked my managers if theres anything i could do and i have taken that advice and done my best to amend that.
but i just keep getting passed up for things. people i’ve trained will be picked for bar training or to be managers or to take large parties. and i’m happy for them, but the few times i’ve asked my managers why i wasn’t chosen, what i could have done to could do better, they don’t have an answer. i’ve had teachers and managers tell me that they didn’t think about me, that they never considered me. that they called everyone except me to cover shifts (when i’ve made clear that im willing to work) because they didn’t think of me.
i’ve always believed i need to work hard and that it’ll work out, but it sucks. i want to be seen, im tired of getting passed over for things. i’m tired of people not noticing me. i don’t want to beg for attention but it hurts. what can i do to change it? what can i do to be noticed? it is effecting my work performance because i’m hurt and bitter. but it’s not really their fault for not thinking of me.
at the end of the day, it’s just a job. i’m just a server. i’m going to go back to college and in a few years, i don’t know if ill care anymore. but it doesn’t change how im feeling now.
edit: sorry about the vagueness i initially wrote this for a different sub. this is a local-ish, nice pizza place. think millennial burger restaurant, but its pizza and beers. the food is very good and my coworkers are incredible, we’re a very teamwork-centric restaurant model. i genuinely enjoy my job, so i don’t WANT to leave completely. i’ve been there for about a year.