u/Lopsided_Ad_7424

Hi all—I’ve been a summer nanny for a family for the past two years and we are approaching our third summer together. My schedule is 8-4 during which I am typically responsible for the three older kids (elementary age). I take them to their country club in the family vehicle for golf lessons and pool. I am supervising all 3, preparing snacks/meals/water, transporting them, packing pool stuff, and ensuring they have their golf things. They’ve told me I go above and beyond (which I really do) in providing the kids an enriching summer and taking care of them despite their inappropriate behavior.

My issue is that both years their behavior has been difficult to say the least. I’m talking about frequent violence toward each other and me, and just horrible attitudes and zero respect. Unfortunately, parents are very permissive and inconsistent with discipline so their behavior is extremely hard to handle as a nanny. I can do it, but it takes a lot of effort.

As a result of their behavior I’ve agreed to come back on a modified schedule so only 2x a week which will be much better for my sanity. However, I do feel undervalued and would like to ask for a raise going into the third summer working for them. We live in a HCOL area and they are wealthy. Both previous summers I have been paid $25/hr for 1-2 kids and $30/hr for 3 kids. Personally, I don’t like the different rate depending on number of kids. I am going to ask for a consistent rate above $30 whether I have 1 kids or all 3. No benefits.

My current year round family is incredible and they gave me a $3 raise out of the blue last fall. What number should I ask for from my summer family? I want to be reasonable and also consider how taxing the job is and how much is asked of me from the family. Any tips on how to phrase my request are appreciated!

Thank you!