If you are a transformational/healing coach that healed your own trauma or "troubled" past - how did you get past the fear of "being seen" and how much did you share about your past?
Apologies this is long...pls bare with me for context - I need your feedback.
I've always had a thing about "being seen" and really putting myself out there vulnerably - mostly from trauma/abuse bc when I was seen bad things happened. I've done some basic videos / lives on IG but they were quick, I was discussing a topic subjectively...or interviewing a guest.
I'm a transformation coach, and part of my brand already includes being honest about how/why I became a coach. Mostly related to past relationships and work struggles.
I know visibility is everything and I'm scared my biz is going under if I don't make some big moves. The last few years i've been "getting ready" and getting ready... to spread my wings and fly full force into YouTube, but I still have yet to post a video.
I am great on camera, I know my stuff, and I've helped a lot of people change their lives for the better. That being said...I'm terrified to lock it in.
What's crazy is that I actually beleive I'd do really well. Also, everyone (friends/family/colleagues) who saw my WIP intro video to said they wanted to keep watching! It even made me laugh days later as I started edited. I can't imagine how hard the fall would be should some old stuff come up ...or a screenshot of a heated argument / call out online, etc.
Like most - I didn't become a "transformational" coach because my life was great and made good choices! NO. I did it bc I was a hot mess for over a decade, carrying unresolved trauma, and I pretended to be okay until I was so not okay, I had no choice but to change. I was young, dumb and self destructive. Not a psycho a$$hole, just "the normal amount" of fu@ked up early adulthood.
I loved my new life so much I wanted everyone to know another way existed.
Anyone else in my shoes - past or present? How have you gently revealed your bad boy/ bad girl past - while maintaining boundaries? ...and authenticity?
Also, I don't plan on hiding/denying anything, I just don't want to share the nitty gritty details. I just know at some point, if / when I share some real life stuff, the trolls and sleuths will dig for anything and everything else they can find.
100% likelyhood there's pictures of me being "bad" ...prob videos too and STORIES will likely be shared by anyone I partied with or dated lol!
Is this just the inherent risk? Am I catastrophizing ?
Anyone blow up on social then have to navigate a PR crisis?
I know this fear has absolutely been holding me back from really going all in on my coaching / youtube presence. I've worked on pretty much everything else in my business and personal development / healing. This is the only explanation I can think of for not going all in.
thanks for sticking around. looking forward to your shares/stories.