u/Low-Technician-4491

Im a 27F and my brother 33M was diagnosed about 8-9 years ago when I was in college. Since then, he's been back and forth when it comes to taking his medication, jobs, relationships, etc.

This past year was particularly tough for him bc he lost his job about 3 months after moving out of my parents house (lived there for 7 or so years). My parents are loving but are immigrants, so communication is hard and since hes been sick, one of his main delusions/paranoia/fear is that our parents and family are out to control him for negative purposes (ie. Put him in the hospital, steal his soul /energy, etc).

It came to a peak last month when he was violent with a family member (although we did talk about it, the stories were confusing and not aligned). He's increasingly experienced more delusions and erratic behavior.

Last week, I went with my second brother to express our concerns and offer anything that could help. Im the only one in the family 31M trusts, so Ive taken lead on organizing my family (all neurodivergent). When I asked, he said he just wants to find a job so he doesnt have to move back in with my parents when the lease runs out next month.

We told him that our goal is not to have him in the hospital but to support him being healthy, supported and not moving back to our parents.

He seems to refuse (idk why, it seems fear based ) :

1. Social security/disability payments

2. OUTPATIENT programs (this one really gets me bc i assume its better than inpatient, but idk )

3. Case worker help

I want to help pay for him to live while he gets better and finds what works for him but im worried that im focused on the wrong things. Its hard to work when your mental health is not there and im worried that I will be ruining my finances bc he hasn't been consistent with meds while finding a job is hard enough even for neurotypicals.

I have faith in him, I dont have faith in my pockets and I don't want to look back and think that I should've committed him.

Any advice?