My fiancé (45F) (I’m 55M) uses AI to generate her responses to difficult conversations, but she doesn’t follow through with what the chatbot says.
This is my first post. Please forgive any Reddit etiquette errors. My fiancé (45F) owns her own business and uses AI to create responses to her clients. Because she texts with her clients so much, we text a lot too. We've had some difficult conversations over text. I write my thoughts and how I’m feeling, and she sends back the AI response to what I sent (when she copies and pastes from the chat app, the font is different. Plus, the words the chatbot uses aren’t words she’d use in a conversation). While the chatbot responses say the right things, my fiancé doesn’t follow through with what the chatbot promises.
To be clear, we have many difficult conversations in person and over the phone. After our talk ends, she’ll send a text reopening the conversation. This isn’t after every conversation, but it happens often enough that I’m frustrated.
I'm at the point where I think the AI chatbot is her Cyrano de Bergerac, telling me what I want to hear to placate me in the moment (which works – your loved one says the right thing and you want to believe what they’ve said. Plus, I don’t want a protracted argument). When it’s time for her to do what the AI promised, she doesn’t follow through.
I feel deceived. I feel manipulated. I feel as if I’m losing trust in what she says. I have no idea how to proceed. How can I address this?