u/Massive_Fee_101

Been dating him almost 2 months. It is starting to get serious in the sense that he is just pursuing me more and more. He has told his friends about me, is asking would my brothers like him, my sister etc. Other than that his interest is just really high. I haven't met his family yet and we haven't discussed labels but just last week he said he has paused his hinge account. We have an upcoming concert on Sunday to see a band he knows I love that he booked a month ago. Right to the white lie/secret etc

Basically I have a twin sister who has been through a lot the last 3-4 years. She had to leave her pharmaceutical job because she had a breakdown due to stress and having aspergers. She had to end up going into a psyche unit for a few months.

To sum up she is now a cleaner with a year partime and she relies on disability allowance too. Im proud of her that after putting up a lot of weight and nkt taking care of herself and through my encouragement she is doing much better. She also had to motivate herself too.

However I have massive silly insecurities and always feel like people judge people on their jobs and lifestyle. So on the second date with this guy i told him she works in the pharmaceutical when she doesn't. He obviously asked what her job was first. So I have kept up the secret because it has only come up a few times but id refer to her hours that she worked before ie shift work.

On a walk yesterday evening he again asked a bit more directly about her hours just briefly but it made my heart sink because I was planning on telling him about her, but unfortunately I reinforced the lie and just quickly changed the subject

So its been eating me from the inside out. He's coming over Friday evening to stay over and I know im definitely going to have to tell him. Also I'll be honest and say I repeated a year when I was in school and he said so you graduated like me in 2010 (we're the same age) and I just said yeah because I was embarrassed about repeating that year. That has never come up since obviously but I know its another white lie. Im not a dishonest person at all in day to day life but through dating in recent years and mainly with this guy i have let my insecurities get the better of me.

Id like your honest opinions and how to approach this with him please

I have been seeing this guy 5 weeks today.

Yesterday marked our 10th date and I will probably see him again tomorrow and another day next week before I go away on holidays. We have already booked our first overnight hotel stay to see Mum ford and sons in 3 weeks time. He suggested this as he knows I like the band.

After about 3 weeks and on our 6th date we had sex.

He has really surprised me in every way especially the sex because get this.. I actually ended things with him after the 4th date because I was just feeling neutral about him attraction wise and physically he wouldn't be my usual type.

He asked for a second chance so I did because I felt deflated not relieved after ending things with him. Well boy im glad I did because I felt the attraction and the electricity (before sex) during our 5th date.

He has mentioned that he only focuses on one person and actually started chatting to a girl after I ended things but then stopped chatting to her once I messaged him to rekindle. He wants a longterm relationship like me. We do all the couple things like going for dinner, walks, to the cinema etc. I have been to his twice and he has been to mine twice. He also mentioned to his friends that hes seeing a girl from my area and mentions his friends a lot to me and told me his insecurities, everything about him etc. We message daily. He wants to meet up as much as he can with me.

So I know its still early days because although its been 5 weeks weve had a serious amount of dates in such a short space of time! But what are we and should I not assume anything? One thing I will say is he might be being cautious because my rekindling message to him was that Im unsure and dont want to be giving mixed signals but I am open to meeting him again and seeing how things go. So he might be on edge after that because everything else is pointing towards a relationship. Thoughts?