Trying to learn (and not accidentally enable)
I feel like im stuck in a bit of a tailspin.
recently i was having what I jokingly called a quarter life crisis and its led me to discover things about my own family I never knew, mainly a connection to Oneida. To be clear I was raised as a white girl (though I’m now gender queer) and I never knew much about my relatives until I started to dig.
unfortunately I get extreme nerves from my social anxiety which is making it hard for me to gather informatio… i also have a bit of a bad feeling my other relatives have intentions that align with some of the pretendians i have read about.
I want to uncover the truth of my family’s past but I don’t want anyone taking it beyond what is appropriate. Any advice or thoughts on how to continue my learning whilst keeping my family in check?
thanks for your time!