Updates - Turns out I am the bad neighbor because of BBQ and my pool
Here is the original, didn't get much traction, but had some closure. https://www.reddit.com/r/BadNeighbors/comments/1qb7agc/turns_out_i_am_the_bad_neighbor_because_of_bbq/
Well, turns out I have a new friend now.
Flash forward to now, my fence was being crowded by a large amount of shrubbery and trees on my neighbors property. I had been trimming what has been creeping over my side, but it hit critical mass and it had to be addressed on the other side.
So I went over to talk to him, I also brought fresh BBQ from that weekend. I had a good amount of wings, ribs, pulled pork and hot dog burnt ends as a peace offering.
I knocked on his door and he opened it up and got a funny look. I reintroduced myself, offered up the BBQ and told him about the fence and issues with the vegetation. I told him I have been trimming it back but tried to not damage the trees and what not, but they would be presenting a problem at some later point. I would totally understand if they did not want to do anything and I was not trying to be a Karen and apologized how the last interaction went. I gave my pitch and he and his wife who came over listened.
Well, when they replied, he was more interesting in the BBQ and her the landscaping. We walked over the overgrowth and I told him what the various plants were and what should be cut back and where. I also said when he was ready I would come over and help. I have the chainsaw and other brush clearing tools and would take it over to the transfer station with him. That surprised him a bit and we chatted some more and he seemed appreciative and was a surprised at how things went. We swapped numbers and I went back home.
I got a text from him later that evening, they had the BBQ and really really enjoyed it, especially the hot dog burnt ends which they were not too sure about. The kids basically decimated those after they got a taste.
So a happy ending.