u/MetaKnightsMetanite

hi everyone! i have been to a handful of weddings over the years, all in australia but also all tinged by the customs of my own ethnicity in varying degrees. most of them were also in the 2010s, with the most recent one still being like 4 years ago.

i'm starting to do research for my own wedding, but as you can imagine, most of the things i'm finding are american and i'm not sure how helpful they are. for example, i keep seeing that expecting cash gifts over physical ones can be rude, but i know that can't be true here because every single wedding i have attended has gone for cards and cash gifts.

in particular, to start, i'm wondering if thank you notes to guests who gave gifts are a thing? i have never received one.

would it be weird to have bathroom baskets with amenities (panadol, listerine strips, hair ties, etc etc)?

anything else i should keep an eye out or know to disregard for an australian wedding?

hi everyone! i see the suggestion to "ask on fb" a lot so i joined a few yesterday and they were overrun with the same vendors, with some of them just posting ai generated stuff.

i haven't used fb regularly for years, so i think i may be out of touch here 😅 would anybody be able to recommend a fb group they found to be genuinely helpful or insightful?

my wedding will be in sydney, i'm so looking for sydney based groups, but feel free to share your local for others looking!

as small as this subreddit is compared to other wedding subreddits, it's one of my favourites as many others are very americanised and it's easy to get lost in all their etiquette and strict guest codes (which are fine! just usually not super relevant in aus).

but i'm noticing a lot of advertising lately, to the point where it feels inauthentic? people dumping videos, images, whole marketing proposals (sometimes completely ai generated, to boot), etc. without actually engaging with anyone here. treating it as their dumping ground/free advertising space.

i've seen a rule on other subreddits that advertising should be no more than 10% of your engagement with the subreddit – could something like that be implemented here? i don't want to see all the helpful and genuine discussions drowned out by soulless advertising.

and, to be clear, i am not including the handful of vendors that tend to post here as "soulless". you guys sharing your perspectives and experiences and being generally helpful are a huge part of what makes this community so great!

keen to hear everyone else's thoughts!