u/Minute-Key9437

When i make a beat it gets its volume lowered by 7 dB because of youtube rules, and 5-6 dB come from the 808s, how do i make them to be distorted and heavy but not ruin my beat? If i mute them and leave only the melody+ hi hats snare open hat etc.. it only gets lowered by 1.5 dB which is perfect. I dont understand how other distorted beats sound clear and good even when they are louder than mine.