Moved abroad from Russia a week ago and feeling like I made a huge mistake, even though I planned it for 6 months
I'm 23 y.o., work remotely as a developer. My family had already been displaced once by war years ago, and after finishing my degree in Russia this year, I had a narrow window before I'd have to either continue studying or face mandatory military service.
So months ago, I decided to leave. I saved up, planned it carefully, and about a week ago my wife and I relocated to Southeast Asia. I sold most of my belongings, my computer, my desk setup, anything that didn't fit in a suitcase.
Now that we're here, and I just feel like I made a huge mistake. I miss my comfort, my routine. I haven't slept properly in a week. I keep having thoughts like "I should've just stayed," even though I know what staying could have meant. I also feel guilty watching my wife struggle with the same adjustment, like I dragged her into this.
Logically I know the decision was planned, not impulsive. But right now it just feels like I gave up everything for... nothing? I can't see clearly what the next 6 months, a year, two years look like, and that uncertainty is eating at me.
Has anyone else gone through something like this, leaving for a serious reason and then hitting this disorientation? How did you get through the first weeks? Did it get better, and how long did it took?