u/Mysterious_Sweet_144

Healer of my broken heart.

Only animal lovers will understand

This pure

Unconditional connection.

You were curled up asleep when I first passed by.

In a little hut, full of other cats,

Amongst the trees.

Nature all around

All looking bored.

Not sad,

Just sleeping

Cats are good at that.

But something obviously

Woke in you as I wandered past.

You started

Calling out to me,

Making a terrible din.

So I came back,

You put on an amazing performance,

Fussing around the glass,

Rolling on your back,

Purring, stretching.

You even showed me

How good you were at catching flies,

It was love at first sight,

You had to be mine.

A connection

For us both.

Our home

Your forever home.

Gorgeous boy.

One great love of my life.

Of course

You're in charge,

King of cats.

I say I rescued you,

But truly you rescued me.

You healed my lonely heart.

My furry bundle of joy.

Did I chose you,

Or you me?

A pure purrrrfect connection.

Snuggling down

Warm and fuzzy

Talking about our day

In each others arms

I can't think of anyone

I'd rather be with than you...

❤️

Come on my friend,

It's time to retreat,

Admit defeat.

Open your eyes.

Don't let this continue,

Your candle is dimming,

The wick shortening,

A shadow of your former self.

Your beautiful aura

Failing.

Fragments of you, disappearing

bit by bit.

In a torture chamber

Constructed not just for you,

It has had previous occupants.

Only you have the combination,

The freedom code,

Use it before it changes

Set yourself free.

From

The lies

The manipulation

The abuse

The traps

The fake illnesses

To gain sympathy and cash

Entrance to your world.

Come back to us friend,

Before it's too late.

We are here,

We won't let you fall,

We will hold you

For as long as it takes.

You just need to find the

Strength.

You will be OK...

So will they....

This is a regular game they play.

It's on repeat.

We love you, we will leave the light on.

Always.

My Dearest Friend,

Please don't change, there is nothing wrong with the way you are, you are amazing.

They fell in love with the person you were when you met, you haven't changed, why do they want sculpt you into someone else. Why did they chose you in the first place if you weren't what they wanted. It's not like they didn't have time to get to know you. It was months before you even dated, you weren't pretending to be someone you weren't, nothing fake about you, you are one of the most authentic people I know.

You are sweet, strong, kind and generous, smart, open and full of fun. Look good too. I can see them dimming your light, you don't laugh as much these days. You are always double thinking your actions and words.

Stop letting them psychoanalyse your feelings for eachother, inflicting their over thinking on you, and mumbo jumbo ideas. Telling you how to feel, think, be. Setting so many boundaries, rules, that you can barely breathe, let alone walk out of your own door without being tracked day and night.

Why do people do this.

Punish other people, just because they don't live up to unrealistic expectations. Make them feel bad about themselves when there is nothing wrong with them. Punish them because they are not like their ex. Or whatever goes through their minds.

There is nothing wrong with you. You can't help the fact that they are looking for the kind of perfection that doesn't exist in anyone, other than in a fantacy romance novel or film.

Please don't shrink into a shell and make yourself fake or small.

You are special your the only one like you...

Why do people say 'I love you' when they clearly don't?

I'm not talking about a quick 'love you' to a friend,

The 'I', changes the whole context,

The whole meaning

It sound's different,

I Love You

It feels different, just by adding that

One single letter.

How can one letter hold so much power

Over a sentence,

People,

a life,

a feeling.

Take it away and it becomes a friendly gesture.

Love you

Yet people still say 'I love you' even when the feeling has gone,

They don't want to admit it's over,

They don't want to hurt you,

Or they don't know how to drop the 'I',

Without being noticed

Knowing once they drop that one little letter,

The secret is out,

The whole world knows

The feeling has gone.

I need you to let me speak, please listen to me, let me finish my sentence without walking away. I've been trying for months to say something. I need to say this, it's destroying me, festering between us. Building up like a pressure cooker. If we don't hash this out, we won't get past this in the end. I've put it in writing but you say you don't read my words.

It's not like I haven't tried, but this subject is taboo. As soon as I try to pour my heart out on this you shut me down. You shut off. You are in pain, you think I didn't stand by you.

I need you to know why I did what I did, why I behaved that way. Why I shut off eventually to protect myself, after frustrating months of trying to get you to see, it was destroying me watching you being manipulated. Making me ill. I had to stand back and let you go through this. Your actions didn't give me any choice. I needed peace, I needed to get off the roller coaster, continuous ups and downs, while you were allowing yourself to be played. I cry, when I think you thought it was real love.

Sad thing was, I could see exactly how they were doing it so could everyone else. I know why they chose your gentle caring nature to work on.

Everything I did was out of unconditional love, from the heart, based on absolute truth, fact, and even though every spider sense in me was tingling, I still made sure of all the facts before confronting you. Begging you to open your eyes.

I knew the risk I was taking when I told you what they were doing, who they were, what kind of person they were, their MO, how many other people they had fooled, their track record and what their aim was. I tried standing back, gave you a few pointers to investigate for yourself. But still you were blinded by their lies. Totally under their spell. Even with hard evidence, I couldn't get through to you. They had done a real number on you, entrapped you fully.

Anyway, sadly, you found out the hard way and my heart is breaking for you. Everything I did was for nothing, I lost you, my best friend over this.

You became so defensive and wouldn't believe me. I became the enemy, the aggressor in your mind, when they were the one who was the real impending threat. They fully managed to alienate you from your loved ones, one by one. Did you honestly think I would have risked all this on a whim, suspicion, you know me better than that.

I should have kept my mouth shut. If I had, at least I could be supporting you now. I still would if you would let me, but you think I'm going to say, I told you so. I never would. I still want to support you but I'm out in the cold. No admissions from you required, I'm here if you need me day or night.

I need to speak to you, so you understand why I did it, why I risked everything. I don't need you to say I was right, you were wrong, I don't need to be right, I hoped I was wrong, knowing I wasn't. I wish I hadn't been right, I would rather have been wrong.

Sadly now, we both know I was right, but those words don't need to be spoken. Why couldn't I have been wrong, and they had been everything they pretended to be? I wish they hadn't fooled you so convincingly.

I'm mortified that you are in pain. Your heartache your shattered trust.

I just need to know that you understand my motives, that they were pure and protective because my friend I love you.

I have had two true friends you are one, I pray we can get past this but you have to let me speak, you need to let me finish my sentence without interrupting and not walk away.

Listen to what I say, think about my words and then come back to me my dear friend. Talk it through peacefully. I need you in my life.

I miss you terribly, but all ask is for you to hear me out and say you know I did what I did for love. You don't have to stay.

Should I stay or should I go?

Either way my choice is final.

No turning back.

If I stay I will be both happy and sad,

If I leave I will be sad then happy.

It's a dilemma

One choice keeps everyone happy

The other is a slow burning result more measured.

My head is in a spin,

Will I won't I,

Shall I shan't I,

Oh goodness me,

Someone lend me your hat and a sheet of paper,

I might have to tear it up into pieces,

Yes or no, on each,

Play the yes no game.

Someone help me please...:-)

Thank you,

You gave me a rose, a token of your love,

Not a single rose, a rose with roots.

Inside you tucked a note.

Not a single fleeting bloom

Cut from a stem

Destined to fade and die.

A living plant with roots and life,

Ready to reach for the sky.

Your note simply said,

'Plant this somewhere the

Sun can kiss it's leaves.

Watch it thrive,

Taking strength from the soil and rain.

Each year growing without fail, a constant.

The buds will open and sweeten the air with fragrant perfume.

The beautiful flowers reminding us,

Our family love is rooted,

resilient and forever in bloom.

A single rose, although beautiful

Just didn't say enough.

Please tend this rose with love.'

Love isn't always pretty. I look at you, knowing you have seen me at my absolute worst. Not just me in the morning with messy hair, me at my real life worst, moments of grief, heartache, exhaustion, unwell, crying looking like something out of alien.

My anchor in the storm.

We all talk about the first spark, the wonderful excitement of a fresh new exciting love. That feeling is amazing but it evolves, as life throws you all kinds of curve balls.

Your love actually saved me, it wasn't a fantacy, you stood by me, with a quiet, gritty endurance. You didn't just stay, you stood your ground against the odds.

You and I have a history and a thousand jokes which mean nothing to anyone but us, nick names for everyone. Memories shared, pasts which have shaped us.

Like the time I told you I felt like screaming my grief into the wind, you drove me to the nearest hill, we stood there, arms stretched out, hair blowing in the wind and screamed, then we fell to the floor laughing hysterically, that was such a therapeutic bonding day. Then we sat by the stream just listening to nature, letting our feet get wet..

I don't have to perform for you, I am just me, you are like a warm, fluffy blanket, keeping me safe and protected, warm and cosy.

I owe you so much, you are my world.

I know how you feel about me without any doubts whatsoever, I'm sure you know how much I truly love you. I don't hide it. You have made me a better person, we are a team and we have supported eachother throughout. You know I am here for you too.

The good, the bad and the hard times are what make you strong.

We also know how to just be, we can sit in silence together and feel totally at ease.

My love, our love, yours. ❤️

I do still love you, but not like that, no romance.

We dated for five years, all those years ago.

Where has the time gone. So much has happened in between. We grew up together, meeting at school, and just drifted together somehow. Close, very close, but in retrospect, never in love. The love was real enough and still is but lacked passion. We had some great times though.

You have always been a daredevil, an adrenaline junkie, not me, I'm a scaredy cat, over cautious. Throughout our relationship you always had women chasing after you, your toned body and tan. It wasn't a comfortable time for me, I missed some opportunities myself.

Gradually we drifted apart, just like we drifted together, our friend found out you were seeing his girlfriend, called to tell me and that was that. I was upset, I was angry and everything was in tatters, my pride was dented, but I knew it had been over with us for a long time. We really had become just friends.

Honestly, it's never a good idea to hang around once somethings over, in fact it's cruel to all concerned. Had we both used some common sense, we would have walked away amicably and avoided so much pain. Neither of us wanted to hurt the other so we hung around, too weak to leave, not strong enough to make the break. Not strong enough to hurt someone we cared for to set them free. All the unnecessary pain that caused could have been avoided, along with the bitterness and hurt pride. You would not have ended up cheating. I should have set you free, I knew you didn't want to be there any more. It was my fault you strayed because I didn't set you free and it was your fault I missed a fantastic opportunity, you should have set me free. . Therefore we are equal in our blame. We both should have been stronger.

Sometimes you need to set them free to set yourself free. Free yourself up for better or different things. It's a bit like a reset.

Somehow, we all managed to stay friends but not for a good few years, you moved away we lost contact and then there you were with your new wife. I was in love and had moved on.

I'm good friend's with your wife, (not the same person you left for). Amazingly, your X and I are also still friends, she has moved overseas now, and I keep in touch with her X boyfriend too.

Some people will think this is strange, weird even, and couldn't possibly do it, but you have to remember, we all had a strong friendship beforehand and grew up together in the same neighbourhood. We were all devastated that we hurt eachother, we all played a part. You just have to let go sometimes, move on, not dwell on the past. Cherish good people, not everyone that hurts you is bad. Not everyone is cruel, they don't necessarily hate you.

I love and care for you all and you do me, but none of us are in love with eachother and probably never were. We are much better friends than we we ever were lovers.

You asked me what my thoughts were regarding love and why people are finding it so difficult in the dating world these days.

Well, firstly let me say, I am far from being an expert.

However, I do have an opinion. Just like you will have. These are simply my thoughts. I'm not trying to project them on anyone else, nor am I giving advice. It's just an observation.

How you live and feel your love is yours to experience, not mine.

I don't think you can define love, love means something different to each individual, couple or family. We all want and expect something different from a relationship, even within a partnership. Love and romance, marriage, are sold to us from a very young age and romanticised, Well known cartoon fairy tales, Cinderella, Sleeping beauty, Snow white. In all of those stories, there's a nasty character, ready to put the mockers on everything, but the Prince comes to the rescue and defeats all the bad guys and they all live happily ever after.

Well the real world isn't like that, not very often anyway, if at all. I've certainly never met a prince but I have met a few nasties and I'm not talking just men.

Love does prevail quite often, you might not look at it and class it as love, but if the couple call it love then it's love, it's their love. Their choice.

Even though the dating game has become exhausting. Mostly, IMO, because we have moved from a world where we used to meet our partners face to face, school, work, clubs, social events, the gym, classes, groups, shops, socially physically. Often in a small radius from our homes. We have lost the spontenuity of meetting in the old fashioned way, slow discovery, eye contact, you saw people's flaws and the things you liked, sometimes immediately, that spark their mannerisms, the way the move, dress, smell and feel. Just simply spotting them and thinking wow. Primal.

Dating, slowly getting to know them, or walking away because there was no connection.

Love is about people muddling through, being vulnerable, seeing and feeling the honesty and connection. Forming a slow or immediate bond.

What we each think love is, depends on us alone, sometimes love is, companionship, romance, physical, financial security, sharing financial responsibilities and a home, shared interests and dislikes, causes, spirituality, trust, enjoying someone's company, support, laughing, crying together. Wanting to be with them. All of the above or some. So many variants and no real rules as long as you feel and are safe.

You have to simply let it be, go with the flow in my opinion.

Over the last, around ten or so years, people have tended to meet more and more online and form romantic relationships without even meeting. Some have never known it to be any other way. Dating agencies, which once had a bit of a stigma attached to them are now normal which is fine as long as you chose a good one and at least they vet people a bit.

The only problem being with online connections, people curate who they are and sometimes are a dissapointment when you meet them. You only hav e to look at some of the profile pictures which are blatantly fake. All social media platforms are one big dating agency now, not officially of course. People often don't show who they truly are, they show who they wish they were. When you meet someone you have only met online, it can often feel like they are a stranger, uncanny. Can fall completely flat.

Some people want so much from eachother, setting down so many rules and boundaries. Yes, boundaries are healthy, for example, no means no, but set those boundaries as you go along, don't create a boundary that you may not even need, give the person a chance to prove to you that you don't need boundaries or rules with them, that they respect you, you can trust them. Give them a chance to ask what you do and don't like and naturally do what pleases you.

Love isn't a fairy tale, it's real life, life is a hard battle these days with so much going on in the world. Most of us want companionship support, a hug and a true friend, someone who stays and puts you in a special place in their heart. Love should not make you unhappy, needy, clingy or sad, threatened or vulnerable and it shouldn't be a constant merry-go round, now you see me, now you don't. It should feel comfortable and exciting, safe. Both parties need to be invested in the relationship for it to work.

Love grows with time and changes constantly, the person you love becoming family, a trusted bond which causes no pain or anguish.

Not many get this sadly, perhaps because we expect too much.

Am I a fantacist, a romantic, probably not? Although I like a bit of both, I am also a realist, life's hard, often we need an ally and support more than a lover. They can become you hero, your rock. Your strength and you theirs.

Personally, think the struggle to connect has a lot to do with the way we meet and connect now. Expecting far too much.

Relationships have become formalised and over anylised without any initial physical meet and spark.

You don't have to agree, it's simply my opinion....

It's not easy I know and socialising isn't comfortable for everyone especially with us all being told the world is a scary place.

Good luck out there everyone.

I have made no secret of the way I feel about you. Of course I have told you in person. But I wanted to take this opportunity to put it in writing.

I wanted to take a moment to truly thank you for your love, care and support. For several years I have supported family through illness.

What most people don't know, is that I would never have been able to do it all without you. They don't know, because you refuse to take credit for your kind supportive nature.

I could not have carried the weight without you. Your practical help and emotional support, kept my head above water, a rock in the middle of a swirling ocean. Giving me the strength to keep going through the ups and downs, sadness and grief, that come with caring for those you love in their time of need.

You kept my spirits up, you made me laugh, you prepared me food, looked after my animals, bought me cream cakes and cheese cake, my comfort food, when I couldn't face a meal, cooked, carried out chores, freeing me up to perform my last acts of love and care.

You are wonderful, I am incredibly blessed to have you in my life. I honestly don't know how I would have made it through these last few years without you and your light. You kept me sane, you allowed me to cry, laugh, sleep, be quiet, talk, you held me, sat beside streams with me when I needed to be in nature. Sat listening to me talking rubbish all night.

Remember the time we stood on the hill and just screamed, with our arms stretched out, hair blowing in the wind and then fell to the floor laughing hysterically. Goodness, we felt so much better after that.

Only you know the full circumstances which left this all down to me, you took on the role that others should have performed without being asked.

You did all this without wanting or expecting, thanks, praise or anything in return.

Nothing I can say is enough to express my gratititude.

Love you always.

Love is so romanticised

Fictionalised

Harps

Birds

Fireworks

And Butterflies

All this is wonderful

Or would be if true

In reality the exitement

And fantacy

Fade

Infatuation when romance is

New

Is wonderful

It's true

But true lasting love

Comes

Years down the line

When the passing of time

Creates a bond

And that person becomes

Family

As well as lover

A partner in life

In property

Joint banks

Or not

Children

Animals

interest

Trust

Tears

Laughter

Happines

Sorrow

Shared memories

If you are really lucky

Which sadly some of us

Are not

The love will last a lifetime.

You are one of the most special people I have ever known.

I know you struggle to see yourself as I do, but you have a specific kind of personality that doesn't perform for the world. It's unique these days. You have no vanity, never pose and are truly genuine. You don't even know how special you are, or that it's what makes you so beautiful, especially your warm uncomplicated personality, that doesn't over anylise and accepts without being a pushover.

Your modesty could make you invisible but it doesn't. You walk in to a room and it lights up. People talk to you with ease and you with them, you don't even realise it. You think everyone is the same. The world is full of noisy people, trying to be seen, but you go through your life without wanting a stage or an audience, you don't even realise, it's one of your most attractive traits. When you say you are there if needed, you truly mean it, you show up always.

You are way more special than you give yourself credit for and I'm honoured to have you in my life, you have always been my best friend.

Love you.