Great first date, she asks for a second date, then backed out
I went on a date with a girl I met on a dating app, and it honestly went really well. In fact, as we were saying goodbye, she was the one who suggested we meet again the following week.
Over the next few days, I texted her here and there—nothing excessive or clingy, but I didn't completely disappear either. Then I noticed her messages becoming a bit colder and less engaged. Eventually, she told me she's terrible at keeping up with her phone and said she'd rather have someone "hate her a little now than a lot later" because she'd probably end up disappearing anyway. Because of that, she said she'd rather not go ahead with our second date.
A few weeks have passed, and now Instagram has suggested her profile to me. Would it make sense to follow her and send a casual message like, "Hey, you popped up in my suggested accounts. How have you been?"
Part of me feels like the reasons she gave for ending things were pretty vague, and maybe due to an avoidant pattern, or just stress (she was out of town for work the entire week) so I'm wondering if enough time has passed that it wouldn't come across as weird— or if I'd just be reopening something she already chose to end. I'm 39 and she's 32.
TL;DR: Great first date, she suggested a second one but then cancelled saying she's bad at texting and would likely disappear. A few weeks later she popped up on Instagram - worth trying following and texting her or just moving on?