Everyone seems to have a life except me
I don’t know if anyone else feels like this, but I’ve been feeling really lonely lately.
I work in a city where I barely have any friends. Nobody asks me to hang out, my roommates are horrible to live with, and even old friends barely talk to me anymore.
I do have a partner, but he lives in another city. He has his own friends, goes out, has plans — and I’m genuinely happy for him — but sometimes it makes me realize I don’t really have that for myself.
My company supports hybrid work, and honestly, one of the main reasons I keep going back to my hometown whenever I can is because I feel less alone there. Coming back here feels heavy.
Sometimes Instagram makes it worse. I open stories and see everyone going out, laughing, travelling, having their people… and I just wonder what I’m doing wrong.
I know I’m a caring person. I’m always available for my friends, I check up on people, I make effort… so sometimes I can’t help but wonder — why does nobody seem to want to talk to me or include me?
The weird thing is, I wasn’t always like this. I used to be a really fun, happy kid in school. I had people around me, things felt lighter. But ever since school ended, adulthood has just felt… lonely.
Weekends are especially hard. I feel stuck between wanting connection and not knowing how to build a social life from scratch in a city that doesn’t feel like home.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? Did it get better?