u/No-Personality8662

Hello! I am setting up a beer tasting for my partners birthday, and I’m looking for some feedback on the plans. I don’t drink beer so I’ve just been googling but I’d appreciate some feedback!

Here is what is planned so far:

Spicy rosemary Focaccia (IPA)
Roasted pistachio and hot honey burrata + sourdough(cider)
Cayenne butter popcorn (mead)
Brie + Prosciutto pastry puff (lager)
Charcuterie:
Goat cheese + spicy fruit jelly (wheat)
Salami + cheddar (Pilsner)
Bacon jam, goat cheese (brown ale or porter)
Dessert:
Tiramisu (stout)

Any suggestions/switches are appreciated!

I would appreciate advice from folks who work with students directly and are expected to provide a lot of emotional labour to students.

For context, I work as an Academic Advisor for an undergrad. This past year has been very challenging for me with a major restructuring and more specifically the type of students I now see. I started working with current degree students and students who want to transfer into this faculty.

With transfer students I get a lot of “trauma dumping” where a student will disclose a very serious/graphic trauma to me, typically after I have told them how competitive transferring is. I’m not trying to rate trauma, but when I say serious I mean graphic descriptions of s.assault, childhood abuse, or domestic violence. In the Fall semester I was dealing with 2-10 disclosures a week.

As September is fast-approaching, I am already feeling the anxiety around this. I’m still recovering from the burnout of last year and I would appreciate genuine advice from people who deal with this type of labour. Any advice you have is appreciated, but specifically on:

-I know I need to “leave it at work” but HOW do you leave it at work? How do you not bring it home with you and think about it later? Specific steps/tools you use would be great.
-What phrases do you say when you are trying to set boundaries while also being compassionate?
-For those who see several students a day, how do you navigate back to back appointments after something traumatic happens?
-How do you navigate emotional labour when you feel like there is not much left to give?
-What tools or techniques do you take to recover quickly without transferring onto the next student?

Thank you for your time. I understand that many of you feel this is what academic advising requires and may find this type of thing “typical” but I am struggling and just seeking some help from the community.

*as a note, I am not staying in this field as I am clearly not cut out for this. I need to survive until I find something new!