u/No-Reflection6744

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okay, we just got our second cat that I wanted. he cost 1,100, I put towards £700 that I had saved. my parents are now mad that they are having to buy the food and litter, tracker subscription etc. I would say it is highly unusual for a teenager to be buying their own pet, especially that amount of money. For context, I am looking for a job but as for most people I can’t find one, I am also on the waiting list to be diagnosed with autism, and I have agreed when I get my diagnosis I am happy to use my pip for all of the cats things litter, food, vet care and both their tractive subscriptions, as well as anything else they may need. this was agreed before getting the cat, as I mentioned I am looking for a job. if I can find a job I would be putting most if not all of it towards the cats. My parents knew when saying yes, they would have to pay for MOST things up until I am able to have an income of some sort. I feel like I’m going crazy honestly, because they made that agreement and now are complaining about the prices of maintaining 2 cats. I was 100% fine about putting all my money into buying Charlie (our new kitten) and paying for both Charlie and willow (our other cat) when I have the money to do so.

Okay, hi I’m kylix. I have a 3 year old female called willow, and we just got a 13 week old kitten last week called charlie.

Willow is the most nervous cat you’ll ever meet, clingy and sweet and not affectionate. you are probably wonder why the hell would you then get a kitten, well the intention was for her to have a companion and hopefully bring her out of her shell a little.

We started from willow being able to smell and see Charlie in his massive carrier that he’s been sleeping in (don’t worry he hasn’t been living in it, just a temp sleeping place) he’s free in the cat play room with me for 4-5 hours a day.

We started off with lots of hissing and growling and from today we haven’t had any hissing or growling (only from willow) for 4-5 days, so today willow was begging to be in the cat room, so I decided to see how things would go things went fine at first; then Charlie tried to jump on willow he was obviously trying to play, and willow backed away swatted and hissed.

Willow is more then capable of asking to leave the room, and she didn’t she laid down and had a mini nap, while I was playing with Charlie she then approached me playing with Charlie and hissed at him and backed away again, I have now put her outside of the room to have a break but now she’s begging and crying to be in.

Willow clearly thinks knowing what is going on behind a closed door is more important than this new little furry being I’ve brought into her house.

This process so far has been awful, sleepless nights, a lot of tears.

Now we’re this limbo stage so to speak, and I don’t know wether to back up to the looking through the carrier or Charlie’s crate, or let willow back in because she wants to be back in.

I am desperate for advice, I don’t know what to do from here, any and all advice is much appreciated thank you Reddit :)

Hey everyone, I’m kylix and I’ve got a 3 year old female Persian mix her name is willow, we recently just got our second cat his name is Charlie and he’s a seal tabby point ragdoll he’s 13 weeks old. I wanted to ask you all, is it wrong to have favorites? because prior to even looking for our second I kinda knew I wouldn’t feel the same way I do for willow, willow is CLINGY but not affectionate and is only affectionate if she’s left for a little bit e.g going in the shower, and I love her so much, like I would die for her! now I am in no way a crazy cat lady, 2 is my cut off for sure! Charlie is wonderful, however his “normal” kitten behavior has been a little bit of a put off, as willow was the epitome of a PERFECT first born, no crying, easily sleep trained out of being nocturnal, I definitely care for Charlie but I don’t think I’ll ever feel the same way I do for willow, will this change?? Is it wrong to feel this way? Also any advice for sleep training, willow was great I would stop all naps from 4-5pm and she would sleep all night even let me sleep in, no matter how early I stop Charlie’s naps he’s waking up around 6 which is pretty good considering we got him less then a week ago:)