I’m so lost. Credit card bills are going to ruin my credit.
I’ve had good credit for 10 years now. My ex boyfriend;the father of my child stole all of my the money I worked my ass off while pregnant to save up. He took my card and bought 2000 dollars worth of football cards, and 3500 dollars in paying his employee and atm trips and god knows what else. I never even knew because I was focused on my newborn. It’s insane. He’ isn’t involved in my daughter’s life and has pushed child support along for 16 weeks now.
I gave everybody the benefit of the doubt and believe people are innately good.
I ultimately left him because he put his hands on me in front of our child, and instigated a horrible fight pretty much trying to convince me I was worthless and should find a rope and a tree.
I’m on cash assistance, I have snap, and I am trying to figure out getting back to work with my baby’s super weird daycare schedule.
I was living off of two of my credit cards and I basically owe the amount that was stollen from me.
I’m not trying to be some weirdo loser beggar, I truly am trying my freaking hardest to get back on my feet , especially after having the expectation of what I imagined my daughter growing up in in the home that my ex of 5 years grew up in. We had conversations about financial obligations, and that I was going to be staying home for at least a year. Did I buy groceries and the oil bill and he is for the Electric and everything else he’s had to keep up with for years.
I’m 26 and he is 46. I got myself in a really shitty situation with the wrong man and my egg ripped out of my wallet. If there’s anyone out there with means, and I know everyone’s struggling right now; please help me because I don’t know what I’m going to do this month. My credit card bills are piling up and I’m terrified that it’s going to ruin our future.
I know I need to go back to work, and I am applying and calling every single one, but I just really have let my debt pile up and I genuinely need help.
Thankfully, my mom let me rent a room at her boyfriend‘s house, but I can’t catch up and I need to get us our own space.
I really am trying.My ex has violated me, my head and my body in every way you could possibly imagine and I feel absolutely ridiculous and small making this post but I’m going to attach my Venmo just post this at this point, I don’t know what the hell else to do. Im running out of diapers and I’ve been out of wipes for three weeks now. I just want my baby to have the best and I feel like such a failure.
I really am a person that has their head on straight and I’m not bullshitting anything that I’ve said or even myself.
I’ve never expected this to be so hard. I spent so many years of my life being told that my life is meaningless and that I will never amount anything and nobody will ever want me or love me, that I was just a sex toy, and that I was kept a secret from everyone in this dude‘s life because of our age difference just to find out that he was just hiding me because he was still talking with his ex for the first year and a half and then acted like he was single for the rest of our relationship.
I am usually not naïve and I’m usually not fooled by bullshitters, but he really did damage and I’m working so hard to get myself to wake up in the morning for me and not just my baby. I Feel like such a failure and so weak.
I will do what needs to be done and I really don’t anyone to actually send me money, Obviously. I just needed to get this craziness out of my head and b written out.
I have no idea how people do this along. I have help, because he would’ve genuinely killed me had I not left.
Ima sorry for asking. But here it is.