Should we move to Oregon from CA
So a bit of a conundrum. Currently, in Bay Area with a decent role in tech. Husband is in a full remote position. Me in a 3 days a week hybrid situation. we have long been planning to move to Oregon from CA. The plan was to accumulate some more money in the Bay Area and then eventually move in 3 years or so from now. I was planning to take a remote / local role at a much lower comp and he could continue in his current remote set-up. currently I make about 800-900K per year and he makes about 250K annually. NW about ~8M with two toddlers.
However he would be required to go in office very soon because employees close to his office need to go back to office 3 times a week. [our house is right at the threshold (everyone within 50 miles needs to go and we are right at 49 miles]. So the commute is going to be really rough for him given he has been working remote for last 5+ years. mine has been 3 days a week for since covid and I'm used to commuting this long (mine is actually slightly worse). also next year our older one would be going to Kindergarten, however she is Oct born so she will have to go to a private school however there aren't any good options within reasonable distance and would be a struggle given both of us would need to be in office 3 times a week.
Now if we move to Oregon
- He can still keep his job remote
- We would be able to send her to our preferred school and she wouldn't need to change schools a couple of grades down the road if move a few years later (as planned initially)
- however I would need to fly roughly 30 times or so annually to satisfy in office requirements. these trips would be 3 days and 2 nights each.
Another option would be to relocate locally here to a more commute friendly location.
- however we have no appetite to buy another property for only a few years(and it won't be cheap).
- Or we rent (and rent out our current place). I just can't image renting again especially with young kids. also it won't be cheap as well.
Lastly we stay put at our current place but then schooling situation next year would be rough. we will need to manage school pick-ups/drops with office commutes.
I'm kind of torn what's the best move here. also once my husband starts going to office, he is locked into in-office and won't be able to go back to remote ever again. we have some family and friends at both places.