Why don't we show up for each other when someone loses family like our parents did?
I have a quick question for my fellow black africans.
When I grew up I'd see my parents have friends come support them when there's a death in the family, from the funeral preparations to the actual day of the funeral. I must mention my mom was part of a "stokvel", but even so, her colleagues and friends from back in the day were told about the death in the family and they would show up for my mom.
I can imagine with how our generation is filled with loners and friendships pretty much die after varsity/high school, that sense of community of support is slowly becoming a thing of the past. There's been a few deaths in my family for the past two years... I'm in my late 20s and I won't lie it makes me wish I had something like that, sometimes its nice to have more than just my partner be there to attend the funeral with me.
Curious to know if there are other ladies, maybe even gents too, who find themselves in the same boat and how are you finding it? Have you accepted you don't have a community that supports you in times like those? Do you wish a you belonged to a tight-knit community that actually showed up like how the older generation does it when their friend/neighbor loses a family member?