Gave up fostering after 2 days
I’m struggling feeling guilty for fostering only for a couple days and keep going back and forth on whether it was still a good thing I did for the dog or potentially hurt him more. On one hand he had a great couple days being out and given lots of attention, but on the other hand is he emotionally suffering now because he got his hopes up that he finally had a home and that was taken from him again?
Backstory:
I never set out to foster. I was randomly asked by an agency I previously short term fostered before if I could foster again for this specific dog. I asked multiple times if he needed to be crated often and if he was generally well behaved because I could only deal with a chill dog currently and was worried based on his description he would require a lot of work which I can’t commit to right now. But if he just needed a place to stay for a couple weeks and some company sure. Adoption agency reassured me he’s super sweet and calm. I agree to foster. The trainer drops the dog off the next day and tells me that the dog has such severe attachment issues that the last 2 foster homes said he goes ballistic if attempted to be crated and that they couldn’t leave the home because of how badly he would freak out if left alone so for that reason he’s been living with the trainer for 3 weeks. Trainer states he CAN be crated now. Long story short he could not be crated and couldn’t even be left alone for 20 mins. I wouldn’t have minded him destroying personal items, but I live in an apartment with a roommate and he was biting through the door frame and I became worried he would accidentally swallow splinters and hurt himself / my roommate was upset we would lose our deposit so I decided to return him to the trainer. In the 2 days he was here I spent every moment with him aside from like 3 hours total + he came out to a park and had pup cups etc. basically a great couple days of fun and love. When the trainer came to pick him up he cried and tried jumping in my arms. It made me feel so guilty and sad for giving up so quickly, but I knew ahead of time I couldn’t foster a dog like this. He’s back with the trainer now and I wonder if it would’ve been better if he stayed with him the whole time vs having the random two days with me?