Pain during sex
Hi all—I’m an 18yo woman (AFAB, 5’9” and 230lbs) who has been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is my first consensual sexual partner.
For the first 4 months, sex was not painful at all. We had a great sex life, we were both happy, hurray.
But then penetration started hurting—we’d have sex once (we only see each other on weekends) and I’d be fine, and then the second time would hurt a bit, and then the third was agony and I’d have to stop.
It’s gotten worse, to where I rarely ever have the “it doesn’t hurt” kind of sex. It’s not always agony, but it’s never just pleasurable. I’ve been to the doctor a few times. Once they said they saw a small tear just inside my vagina, gave me some ointment, and it healed perfectly. But that didn’t stop the pain. I went back a few weeks ago and they said they couldn’t see anything wrong. No yeast infection, no STD, no tears. So they suggested more lube, even though lubrication has never felt like an issue. Again, that has been unhelpful.
At this point I’m just so unbelievably frustrated. Myself and my partner both have high sex drives, so sex being painful is far from ideal for either of us.
Thanks!