u/OkPreparation1957

Hey guys,

Needed some quick advice. My narcissistic boss has made my life a living hell and I’ve also quit my current job because of him. I was pretty checked out for a while since he’s attacked me work-wise, mentally, emotionally everywhere. But I seemed to have missed something major that I caught onto recently and now I have to confess about it as it could have some consequence to the company.

I’m worried about his reaction, as his biggest issue with me is inventing problems with me that dont even exist, and now that I have an actual problem, I am legitimately fearful of what will happen. Any tips on how to deal with this?

Hi team,

Love this sub and i am looking for some deep deep deep empathy over here about this miserable situation.

I’ve quit my job because my superior (not my reporting manager though) was insufferable. I was bullied, ostracised, called names, harassed 24/7 and expected to work 19-20 hours a day. I’ve posted about him before too on this very sub about how he made a “mistakes tracker” for me on a public forum and filled it in everyday so that everyone could see what my alleged mistakes were day in day out. This is one of about a 100 things he’s done to me.

I’m on my notice period. They haven’t hired my replacement yet, so I’m still actively working on my projects and there’s no sign of a handover/transition in the near future. So I’m still being harassed everyday the same way.

I couldn’t take it anymore and I took some sick leaves. Told him I was very sick with a viral infection because he asked me to work the weekend when I said I couldn’t.

I’m an athlete and a footballer so I went for my weekly matches. I don’t know whether he’s had someone spy on me or someone from the community who’s also in my workplace has tattled on me, but this superior has come back to me saying “You’re not well enough to work but you seem well enough to play football”. I am extremely disappointed, speechless especially because you know I am understaffed and you have left the team to take over all your work”.

Honestly guys, I’m at a loss for words. I feel very violated of my own privacy, especially because it feels like I am being watched alll the time. even if it was just a case of tattlegate, I don’t think he can confront someone who’s on notice period about her private life. I’m confused and lost and more importantly, furious.

Any empathy, advice, or suggestions would be helpful. Thank you! I love this community so much ❤️

Btw, my reporting manager sits out of a different city and doesn’t care. Reporting this to him or HR is pointless.

Hi guys, love this sub for the positive energy it has! So here I am, looking for some advice/success stories/tips and comfort on my work history and what I am looking for.

I graduated in 2023 with a law degree, joined a firm which had a lot of potential but the work was stale and the people were horrifying. Within about a year I got another opportunity, the work was much better so I did take it but the pay was low and I worked with a very senior manager/partner who overtime became very toxic. I didn’t specifically have a plan to leave but I got another opportunity for nearly double the pay so around the 1 year 3 month mark I joined this new organisation where I’m working currently. I loved my current workplace for about 8+ months when all of a sudden my incredible manager left, a new manager has come in who’s a narcissist, mentally quite ill and is ruining my life (to the point where I’ve had to start seeking therapy) so I’m quitting.

Effectively, 3 years, 3 jobs, looking for my 4th. How do I justify this? Has anyone had success stories with a similar work trajectory? I’ve had mixed responses in how people view my CV but I have reasonable answers to all my moves. Any form of support or advice would be beneficial! Thanks!

Hi guys, need some help on applying for a South Korean visa. Have a rather unique situation, any advice/tips/past experiences would be helpful :)

I’m a 26F Indian and I’m a qualified lawyer in a law firm currently, ill be resigning from my job shortly and I was planning a SK trip in November during a short career break as I have a new job offer in December. I’m travelling with my sister who is a French resident.

The resignation will be the reason I don’t have an NOC, but I have a digitally signed certificate from my firm that states I am employed as on date, and my new job offer letter too. I have ITRs for 3 years, 1L+ salary and I have about 5-6L of mutual funds/FDs. I’ll have to move some money around but I should be able to show approx. 2-3L bank balance too.

Has anybody faced a similar situation and gotten their visa approved? I know it’s a game of luck and a good covering letter changes the deal but any advice/tips would be helpful. Thanks!

Oh FYI, I’m also planning a trip to Japan so this post could be applicable for Japan too.

Hi all,

I’ve been working in law firms for the last 3 years and I have been in my current law firm for the last 1 year. I’ve been fairly good at my job and the profession, and I was doing particularly well in the current firm for 8 months with a specific supervisor, who was a gem of a person. Unfortunately, she abruptly left and we’ve received this horrendous narcissist as a supervisor who is decimating the functional systems in the workplace. His whole life at work is trackers and to do lists and trackers for trackers, with little to no meaningful work done. He also works 24/7, with 100s of emails and messages coming in at every hour of the day over frivolous tasks.

But I think the worst part for me is that he’s latched onto me as a target for harassment and abuse. He has called everything I have done so far as shit, and has endless 1-2 hour conversations with me ONLY about maintaining trackers and lists and making his life easier for folders. Also, he’s refusing to accept my leave requests for a trip in November as the team is stretched too thin to send someone away for 2-ish weeks.

The low blow is this - he’s made a “Mistakes tracker”, where he’s put across ALL mistakes that I’ve made (even if they weren’t) into a public sheet, and numbered them chronologically for everyone to see. He’s also gone bonkers about how I spend my time and wants to see my timesheets everyday for a whole week, even though he isn’t actually my ultimate reporting partner who has the authority to do this.

Disclaimer - NONE of this is happening to my colleague on the team.

I feel like I am actively being pushed out of the firm. But unfortunately quitting is not an option, at least for the next 3-4 months. How do I survive this without being miserable? Any tools, tips, tricks, even empathy or similar stories would help :)I’m just a desperate depressed person looking for some comfort and advice in this awful situation.

P.S HR is a dead end in the firm.