u/Ok_Condition_6021

Saw a post on here and it triggered me so bad cause it’s exactly what I was saying about being a nurse and how your expected to do everyone’s jobs !

https://www.reddit.com/r/NursingUK/s/jEA5CzYsuM - they got a lot of backlash for this but I do agree with the sentiment

Disclaimer: I appreciate all members of the MDT and understand that short staffing and inclusion/exclusion criteria’s mean that nurses just have to pick up the slack 🤷🏾‍♀️ nit anyone’s fault but the higher ups

But my gosh do I hate nursing !! It’s is back breaking , thankless work. Patients are getting sicker, more complicated and bigger (that’s a convo for another day). Patients expect you to constantly tender to all their needs I genuinely think it’s some type of entitlement stemmed from them paying NI. They kinda come into hospital expecting gold star treatment and are shocked when no I will not wipe your arse you grown independent man !!!

Then don’t get me started on the management! They make such a big deal about the little things, did we just successfully manage multiple sick patients , whilst sorting out discharge + admissions yes ! But I forget to update the nutrition boards so now I get a datix ??? Yes I just managed to resuscitate a patient but next time I’ll make sure to take my fleece off in the dead of winter night !! Apologies I know how it really impacts patients care.

As nurses we are expected to do everyone job (obvs to an extent) but you know what I mean. I ask physio to review a patient they say “there’s nothing I can really do for them right now” I now have to do an assessment and find a mobility aid , hope we can get them to use it and go on from there !! On top of the million and one things I have to do ! I’m not the expert here , you are ! But I have to figure it out cause God forbid something happens the patient first thing they say is that the nurse should’ve done xyz!
The other day I referred my patient to SALT post decannulation “nurses need to do the first assessment then refer” I beg your fucking pardon ??? What if they aspirate ? I’m not the expert you are ?? am I understand sometimes it’s staffing and resources and you don’t have the time to see everyone who’s been referred and it’s more of an institutional issue by my gosh nurses really do feel the brunt of it.

You refer patients to teams and a lot of the time they expect you to do like half their job before they even consider reviewing the patient ? I’m not the pro you are hence why the patient was referred in the first place !!

No domestic staff , nurses start changing the bins and cleaning the floors , no hospitality nurses will go get you some breakfast and soup. Nurses are used in replace of lack of supporting staff and it’s honestly exhausting!! Genuinely why a lot of nurses especially young ones are leaving bedside. There’s no benefit at all !!

I don’t know if it’s a post Covid thing where management saw us manage on skeleton staffing and just said f it. These nurses done it before they can continue doing it

I could honestly say more. But I’ll leave it here
Appreciate the nurses , whilst you still have them

I know this may be a stupid question but how realistic is the rookie. I’m not American but it seems like they have a shootout every other episode. How many suspects run away from police or try to shoot at them in real life seems to be most of them in the rookie. Also how does pronouncing death go in the police force it’s seems like sometimes they don’t even try ? As soon as they don’t feel a pulse the persons pronounced dead. No attempt of CPR at least till ambulance gets there?

Got a practice educator interview + presentation coming up soon. Any tips ? Anything the panel may be looking out for in particular. Anything helps

As the title suggests every period I get these intense feelings of irritation especially at my boyfriend. Like it’s almost scary he’s amazing l, very kind and loving we’ve been together since 2021 and so sure we’re gonna get married. Every other day of the month I’m so in love but the couple of days leading to my period his breathing irritates me. And my anger only seems towards him for some reason, like other people annoy me but it’s like he aggravates me. For example I stopped talking to him for a few hours cause he didn’t want to book a dentist appointment yet and I was convinced it’s because hes a slob and dosent care about his oral health and he’s gonna get a really bad tooth infection that will lead to pericarditis and he will die (I’m a nurse loool). He’s completely oblivious obviously cause how do I explain that everything you do in the days leading up to my period make me want to rip my eyes out. It only started happening within the last couple of years. And this is just one aspect I get a multiple of very deep, dark feeling towards my period nothing like the typical stuff. It’s so bad to the point I’m not allowed to make any life decisions in the 3 days leading up to my period cause one day I’ll do something stupid. Everything’s just so intense and I don’t understand where all of it is coming from. I don’t take any birth control or have any hormonal conditions that I know of.

For context I have been a nurse for 5 years and honestly so burnt out currently a band 6 inner London weighting. I’m thinking of leaving bedside for sure within the next 6 months but was also thinking about leaving nursing as a profession all together. Been looking online and there’s a lot of info it’s all a bit confusing. Anyone that left nursing or at least bedside, what do you do now? , how was the adjustment going into a non-clinical role? And how was the pay difference?

I think it’s time I make the switch to a 9-5 or at least a set working pattern.

For context I’ve been a nurse just under 5 years.
I don’t know why especially after this bank holiday weekend I’ve had major Fomo, realising all I do is work at this point. I understand that technically you only work 3-4 days a week but because we can work everyday of the week it just feels like you’re constantly at work. I’ve always been the one to say I wouldn’t be able to come into an office 5 days a week but honestly having that set pattern seems like a dream now.

I came straight out of school into doing nursing at uni and worked bank hca whilst I was studying. So I’ve actually never known anything other than 12.5 hour shifts. I do think it’s starting to take a toll on my mental and physical health, I am so much more lethargic and lazy on my days off.

Also everyone around me seems to work 9-5 or similar pattern so it’s now becoming more difficult to actually socialise with my friends and family. As I said before 12.5 is all I know.

Anyone made the switch from 12.5 shifts to 9-5? Was it worth it in the end ? How long did it take adjust

Very long one apologies
Not sure if this belongs in this subreddit but if I could get any advice from anyone that’s been in the same situation, I would be grateful 🙏🏾

My partner feels like “I’m not showing them love” when I’m too tired to be overly excited to see them. For context I work in a busy ICU just started after moving from a much quieter unit so it’s taking some serious getting used to. We have been together for almost 4 years live apart and I usually go to work from their house as it’s closer to my new job.

Yesterday and today I had two very busy shifts on my feet all day. Was just able to stuff food in my mouth during break times type of busy. I try to communicate with my partner through the day via text but they usually understand if I don’t reply in hours I’m very busy. They’re usually okay and very understanding about that.

So yesterday after my shift I came back to theirs and immediately went to be slept from 9pm that’s how tired I was I noticed their behaviour was odd quiet and reserved. But I was polite I said hi made small convo mentioned my hectic day and said I’m going to bed. The next morning they made a comment that implied they where sad last night cause I wasn’t as bubbly as I usually am, I kinda brushed it off as I was rushing for work and genuinely didn’t want to hear it. Today I’ve finished work they’ve picked me up from the station and it’s immediately awkward I try to make some small talk but it doesn’t really go anywhere and I kinda leave it cause again on my feet all day , I just didn’t have the mental capacity. We get back in the flat I just lie down we have a few short convos about some stuff but nothing too deep. They then go “I haven’t been feeling the love” I try to explain very tired, my behaviour has nothing to do with them and more due to the fact that uno 12 hr shift on my feet all day. I just need to settle and decompress. But I did also mention in no way was I mean or moody I was just simply quiet, just kept to myself before I can start processing the real world. To preface they are usually really touchy, loud and playful type of person. I can be too just not when I’m tired. Whilst I understand they may feel a bit “unloved” because I’m not my usual bubbly self , but at the same time how do I effectively relay that I genuinely not mad or sad I’m just tired ? They seem to get so offended and make it about themselves, but now I’m offended cause you know I’ve had a long day at work, you can see the fatigue in my attitude and the way I look yet you somehow turn it around to “.your not showing me love”??? It genuinely is making me mad the more I think about it

I did bring this point up to which they replied “you can’t say I can’t feel that way” which is true but how do I say that is none of my concern if me distressing after a long day makes you feel not loved ? In the nicest way possible

Has anyone had a partner who just dosent get it a d how did you make it click for them ?