u/Ok_Condition_6021

For context I have been a nurse for 5 years and honestly so burnt out currently a band 6 inner London weighting. I’m thinking of leaving bedside for sure within the next 6 months but was also thinking about leaving nursing as a profession all together. Been looking online and there’s a lot of info it’s all a bit confusing. Anyone that left nursing or at least bedside, what do you do now? , how was the adjustment going into a non-clinical role? And how was the pay difference?

I think it’s time I make the switch to a 9-5 or at least a set working pattern.

For context I’ve been a nurse just under 5 years.
I don’t know why especially after this bank holiday weekend I’ve had major Fomo, realising all I do is work at this point. I understand that technically you only work 3-4 days a week but because we can work everyday of the week it just feels like you’re constantly at work. I’ve always been the one to say I wouldn’t be able to come into an office 5 days a week but honestly having that set pattern seems like a dream now.

I came straight out of school into doing nursing at uni and worked bank hca whilst I was studying. So I’ve actually never known anything other than 12.5 hour shifts. I do think it’s starting to take a toll on my mental and physical health, I am so much more lethargic and lazy on my days off.

Also everyone around me seems to work 9-5 or similar pattern so it’s now becoming more difficult to actually socialise with my friends and family. As I said before 12.5 is all I know.

Anyone made the switch from 12.5 shifts to 9-5? Was it worth it in the end ? How long did it take adjust

Very long one apologies
Not sure if this belongs in this subreddit but if I could get any advice from anyone that’s been in the same situation, I would be grateful 🙏🏾

My partner feels like “I’m not showing them love” when I’m too tired to be overly excited to see them. For context I work in a busy ICU just started after moving from a much quieter unit so it’s taking some serious getting used to. We have been together for almost 4 years live apart and I usually go to work from their house as it’s closer to my new job.

Yesterday and today I had two very busy shifts on my feet all day. Was just able to stuff food in my mouth during break times type of busy. I try to communicate with my partner through the day via text but they usually understand if I don’t reply in hours I’m very busy. They’re usually okay and very understanding about that.

So yesterday after my shift I came back to theirs and immediately went to be slept from 9pm that’s how tired I was I noticed their behaviour was odd quiet and reserved. But I was polite I said hi made small convo mentioned my hectic day and said I’m going to bed. The next morning they made a comment that implied they where sad last night cause I wasn’t as bubbly as I usually am, I kinda brushed it off as I was rushing for work and genuinely didn’t want to hear it. Today I’ve finished work they’ve picked me up from the station and it’s immediately awkward I try to make some small talk but it doesn’t really go anywhere and I kinda leave it cause again on my feet all day , I just didn’t have the mental capacity. We get back in the flat I just lie down we have a few short convos about some stuff but nothing too deep. They then go “I haven’t been feeling the love” I try to explain very tired, my behaviour has nothing to do with them and more due to the fact that uno 12 hr shift on my feet all day. I just need to settle and decompress. But I did also mention in no way was I mean or moody I was just simply quiet, just kept to myself before I can start processing the real world. To preface they are usually really touchy, loud and playful type of person. I can be too just not when I’m tired. Whilst I understand they may feel a bit “unloved” because I’m not my usual bubbly self , but at the same time how do I effectively relay that I genuinely not mad or sad I’m just tired ? They seem to get so offended and make it about themselves, but now I’m offended cause you know I’ve had a long day at work, you can see the fatigue in my attitude and the way I look yet you somehow turn it around to “.your not showing me love”??? It genuinely is making me mad the more I think about it

I did bring this point up to which they replied “you can’t say I can’t feel that way” which is true but how do I say that is none of my concern if me distressing after a long day makes you feel not loved ? In the nicest way possible

Has anyone had a partner who just dosent get it a d how did you make it click for them ?