u/Old_Proposal_7095

My current job is remote and pays me 68K. They expect your Slack dot to stay green all day. I was also asked about my childcare setup on the very first morning. They already feel rigid, and that kind of undermines the whole idea of the job being remote in the first place. I was told that younger employees in the past would get up to take out the trash or move laundry. Honestly, I think that's normal, and I feel like it's unreasonable to expect someone to sit glued to their laptop all day, even though people in an office definitely don't do that.

I noticed that one coworker put "quick restroom break" as her Slack status. That was the moment I said to myself... Yeah, no. The only real advantage of this job so far is that I don't have a commute.

The other offer is 31K higher, but it's 4 days in the office each week. The benefits start earlier, and there's almost double the PTO, student loan/tuition assistance, and up to a 7% 401K match. There's also a bonus plan, which my current job doesn't have.

Is the commute really that bad with all of that taken into consideration? I feel like I'll probably be monitored less in the office than I currently am at home. And either way, it's clear I'll need childcare. My daughter is very quiet, but I can already imagine their reaction if they heard her even once on a call.

Someone I know turned down around 40K to stay fully remote, but her setup seems much calmer than this.

Or you can ask them to pay for college or feed you

People keep leaving my workplace. And I was just sitting in a call where my manager was explaining that I'll be taking on the work of my coworkers who left, without a raise.

Because people are bad at maths?

I got a better offer 4 days after starting a remote job