Do I keep giving money helping when I don’t trust my brother?
I will try to summarise this and keep things fairly brief but my brother is fairly older than me in his 40s and has been diagnosed with bipolar schizophrenia for a very long time. The last few years have not been good for him or easy to say the least and he has been spiralling with delusions for some time now. End of last year we forcibly hospitalised him after finding out he had lost his job, didn’t pay rent for 3 months and was about to be evicted. He was thin, dirty, with scabs all over his body as he believed there was listening devices inside him. He resents me for this hospitalisation SO much saying I ruined his life by admitting him.
He only reaches out currently to ask for money, and has done for 10+ years. The thing is he used to be an addict, and would spend our money on drugs, alcohol, and pointless things. My mother paid off his last rent debt, but he has called me tonight saying he somehow has another of $2000 and is being evicted. He also wants me to send him $250 for cleaning supplies even though I just sent him $50 so he could feed his cat. I just don’t trust what he is saying, but I also feel so terrible at the situations he is constantly finding himself in. I am so absolutely exhausted by the non stop stress of it all, and almost feel relieved when I don’t hear from him for a while. He is unable to work and often abuses me and screams insults during phone calls. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and feel so helpless because I cannot send him the money he seems to always need and my husband refuses to help him as he’s seen me fall apart over all this. Visiting him and doing drop offs of the cleaning supplies and food isn’t an option either as he lives 3 hours away….
Not sure what to do… maybe this was all just a vent as well 😢