u/PM_ME_MEMES_PLZ

I suffer from an autoimmune condition that leads to increased inflammation in my joints which can eventually progress to Ankolyzing Spondyloarthritis if not controlled with medication. One big feature of it is that not moving makes it worse. As such, I've always been hardcore about weightlifting 6x a week, stretching properly and walking enough (4ish miles a day).

I bring this all up just to preface that the gym hasn't been a vehicle for attracting women but I was hoping it would help. I'm currently around 13-15% body fat, 146 pounds and visually ripped (abs, veins, muscle definition). Despite all this I get zero attention from woman. In person I get no second glances or looks, people just seem totally uninterested in interacting. I do work remote but I have in-person activities related to my hobbies and nobody seems interested in even friendship.

dating apps I actually expected to see some improvement since I assumed that since it's essentially a meat market me being in top shape would put me above the vast majority of guys. match frequency is super low and the likes I do get are woman who are out of shape. I don't care if people decide they wanna be out of shape, there's only so many hours in a day and you have to prioritize but it really demoralizes me that woman who are physically not taking care of themselves think they can get someone like me who has to work their ass off in the gym 2 hours a day to look good.

My life is otherwise great, I'm on track to hit a milllion net worth by 30, I love my job and my disease causes me pain most days but I'm still able to stay active. it just sucks that it doesn't feel like it's going towards anything bigger than financial security for myself.

I'm inclined to think I must be doing something wrong, not marketing myself well, need to do something different for dating etc. lots of other threads asking this question suggest that getting in good shape basically opened the floodgates but they don't state height so ya know.

I'm in my mid 20s and recently got out of a long term relationship and trying to set my next direction in life. One piece of advice a lot of oldheads I know in real life both married and single have given me the advice to wait on woman until your 30s and I'm wondering if anyone has perspective on this.

on the one hand I get it, woman in their 20s do not have their shit together and generally bring stress and distraction from making money or trying new things. I could very easily see grinding for another 5ish years, hitting a high net worth, buying a house etc and then going on the market.

on the other hand, I feel like going into your 30s without a ton of experience and then attempting to court woman that have had their fun and are just now looking to settle down could be a really jading experience that's either going to end in settling as an oofy doofy or just staying single.

I've already sworn off dating apps as I downloaded them for a few weeks and it was just demoralizing. for context, I have varied hobbies, have a six pack and a high income and all my matches were woman who were out of shape, single moms or just generally didn't seem to be advanced enough in their life or careers to be ready to commit to something long term.

it seems like a lose lose situation, if I commit hours of my day to setting up dates with woman i'm not that interested in, I might get experience but it's going to take away from my long term financial growth. but if I wait until my 30s I'm going to go in at an experience disadvantage and potentially end up with someone with a serious experience imbalance.

This post is vaguely height related as I'm assuming that my height is holding me back from more of a selection but I'm mostly posting here as most other subs have been taken over by woman not engaging with posts in good faith.