u/Particular_Local_275

I see so many people on here struggling with pornography or other sexual addiction and thought I would offer some practical steps on how to find freedom. I've been free from porn for many years. And I'm sorry to say but "purity culture" just doesn't work. It had good intentions but didn't actually do the research to connect with what the Bible was actually trying to tell you. So here goes:

1. Read the book Unwanted by Jay Stringer. He's a Christian that has done the research to figure out why everyone has become addicted to pornography or other sexual activities. What did his research find? The book outlines how neglect, abuse, and lack of emotional support can warp a person's understanding of intimacy and lead to compulsive sexual actions motivated not by pleasure, but by shame. Sexual brokenness is formed in early childhood by trauma.

2. Find a therapist. Pornography is just a symptom. Deep inner healing is needed to conquer the addiction. I would suggest therapy like EMDR, brainspotting, CBT, psychodynamic, or other similar types.

3. Start practicing better self-care. Realize that you're using pornography in order to self soothe with a massive dopamine hit. Start practicing new ways of regulating your emotions. Go for walks or join a gym. Journaling. Hangout with friends. Do breathing exercises through your nose. Look up vagus nerve exercises to calm down your nervous system quickly (or buy a vagus nerve stimulation device for faster/more permanent results.

4. Be kind to yourself. Addictions are almost never cured overnight. And shaming yourself when you stumble actually makes the addiction worse. So whenever you stumble (even if it's the 400th time this week), treat yourself with grace and compassion.

5. Read scripture and pray to reinforce your faith and relationship with God.

6. Join a small group and become vulnerable about your addiction. Vulnerability and support can help you get to the other side of this.

7. Know that no matter what happens, God still loves you.

8. Look up Huberman's podcast on Youtube about the 4 day writing protocol to help you heal.

9. Consider doing Neurofeedback in order to rewire your brain to calm itself down.

10. Join a men's or woman's sexual addiction group.

The time has come!

So lately I've been addicted to Disney Solitaire. Super fun game but it has a big problem. If you run out of coins, you either have to wait for a timer to continue or pay money. I can't stand that. I don't mind paying an app but I'm not interested in being stuck behind timers, ads, or pay to continue models. Are there any good solitaire games that meet my needs?

I recently decided to quit Wakix after being on it for half the year. I started experiencing some crazy size effects with muscle and joint pain and tension. And while most of that tension has gone away since I quit 2 weeks ago, the muscles near my elbows are still sore and painful. I'm trying to figure out what's going on here.

Long story short, I used to watch a lot of anime and then my life got incredibly hectic. Now I have more free time and I'm ready to dive back in. It's been about 10 years since I've watched any anime. Please recommend me some great series from the past 10 years!! :)