u/Party_Fly4674

I'm an incoming junior and my mom is having me begin to look at colleges online and kinda feel them out. I have asked alumni from different colleges, as well as current students but I haven't asked any professors on their opinions.

Could be multitude of reasons like campus culture, student body, location, funding, resources, rigor, etc. and doesn't have to all come down to prestige; however, if you care mainly about prestige that is fine and please still let me know your thoughts! I'd love to hear from some professors :)

BTW I'm probably going to apply in-state which for me would be Southern California but all over CA works too so any insight on California colleges would be great

this is kind of long but pls read i am spiraling.

i genuinely don't understand why people are so cliquey and stand-offish when it comes to making friends in high school. i know a lot of people on here struggle with making friends bc we are afterall on reddit and many are introverts or "weird" (by society's standards, not mine be who you are lol) but i am the most basic teenage girl you will ever meet. i am very social; i love all the basic teenage girl stuff like tanning, getting fun drinks, selfcare, etc and i dress and shop at like brandy melville and the basic teen girl stores. i also watch the same movies and songs as every other girl at my school. i don't even do this to fit in, this is just who i am like some people are alternative and some people are not. also, im not trying to make myself look really good but i am also a nice person--> i don't make fun of anyone (leaves a bad taste in my mouth after) and i volunteer at a dog shelter (bc i love dogs) and i give out sandwhiches to homeless every weekend at the big city near where i live. i am helping and kind and social yet somehow i always end up being the floater friend. like girls will talk to me if im in the same class but the second the bell rings it's like i don't exist? im never invited anywhere and when i do try to make plans my "friends" will agree but nothing will come of it or i will see that they're all hanging out on socials. like what makes people literally avoid being my friend? i am on all their private spams and private stories and always see literally everyone hanging out without me or having inside jokes im not a part of. it is summer and i have hung out with one person one time because i reached out and it was fine but right after she went to a function and it's like damn you couldn't of invited me lol. does this change after high school? what can i do in the meantime? i have 2 years left.

also maybe this is bc i go to a school full of rich/upper middle class girls and guys but idk. i used to have a bf but he cheated on me so i broke up with him so for the past year i am legit just by myself all the time. any and all advice is appreciated im sad