Marrying a narcissist is death sentence
I’m not connected to Aarti Ravi or her family. I have no ties to anyone in the film industry. I’m literally just a normal person watching this entire situation unfold online, and honestly it hurts seeing how easily people villainize women in marriages once the relationship breaks down.
Aarti Ravi sacrificed her career, identity, peace, and her youth for the marriage and children only to later be painted as the villain while the narcissist Ravi Mohan rewrites history for public sympathy.
The scariest part is how easily society believes the louder person. Especially when the woman stayed silent for years trying to protect her family while the man controls the narrative publicly
Society tells women to get married, prioritize family, support the husband’s career, raise children, stay available for the home, and sacrifice their own ambitions “for the family.” But the second the marriage breaks down, suddenly the same woman is called abusive, lazy, manipulative, controlling, or a gold digger.
Ravi Mohan is giving emotional public statements, discussing money and school fees publicly, threatening self-harm if criticism doesn’t stop, and turning the divorce into a media spectacle. He craves attention, sympathy and makes everything about himself. He doesn’t care about how this narrative he paints publicly against Aarti Ravi affects the children. Aarti Ravi has largely stayed measured and restrained. Yet somehow SHE is being labeled the narcissist.
Aarti spent 15+ years as a wife and mother while Ravi built his career. That arrangement clearly benefited him too. You cannot willingly live that lifestyle for nearly two decades and then suddenly act like she contributed nothing because there’s a divorce now.
Divorce is painful. Anyone can leave a marriage if they’re unhappy. But publicly humiliating the mother of your children while introducing another woman into the picture and then expecting universal sympathy is obviously going to make people question the narrative.
This entire situation is also a reminder of why many women are terrified of sacrificing financial independence for marriage. Because when things go wrong, society often erases years of unpaid labor, emotional support, childcare, and sacrifice overnight.
And honestly? Children should never have to grow up seeing their parents publicly litigate school fees, accusations, and relationship drama online. That kind of public humiliation follows kids forever.