Thoughts , ideas, please, 91 year old father, metastatic cancer to cervical spine and 5.3cm tumor on a scapula. Declining. 70 yro daughter caretaker very worried, stressed and tired.
Thoughts please, 91 year old father (was great for 91, driving, working around house before the can metastatic bone cancer, cervical spine and 5.3cm tumor on a scapula. 70 yro daughter is caretaker and stressed and worried. Psa 163, then 93 after lupron and 1 month on xtandi , xgeeva. 2.5 months in now ,2 weeks post radiation on bone mets. He's in alot of pain, on long lasting morphine, doesn't eat much, lost 20 pounds in the 2.5 months. Some mental decline. I can't get him to drink much, even though he knows he's got to. He lives with 95 year brother, they cook some, don't want housekeeper, and don't want much help in house, including from me.
He's on palliative care now, and they had short conversation with them about hospice. No dr has said he's in final stages. Awaiting a full body pet scan. But Dad still thinks he's going to get to how he was before, driving, etc. Palliative care has said where he's at physically and mentally is the new normal.
Don't even really know what my question is, just thoughts from those that have gone through this on how to cope.