ending my relationship I think
Hi, i’m thinking about ending my relationship. my bf (28M) and i (28F) have been together for about 2.5 years ago and he’s physically disabled. he can walk a enough to like get around short distances and. but he has a progressive illness. it’s a shock he’s still ambulatory. i knew about his disability when we got together but it never bothered me to not want to date him. now we live together and have talked and both want children. we actually broke up for a few days a few months into the relationship because he had said he didn’t want children. i think he was scared and didn’t think he could realistically do it (my guess). but said he’d changed his mind and he wanted them, so we got back together. i think ive now changed my mind and don’t think having children with him is what i want. i feel awful for it. being the one who does most of the labor is already hard and i don’t know how much of this to share. thoughts? there are other things, too. he doesn’t know how to really have difficult emotional conversations. he’s pretty content being at home and i want to do more. obviously things he can do. i’ve been saying i need more in both areas for a while now. i did break up with him this past weekend. i didn’t bring up the kids and concern around his disability. there’s also a lowered life span and i’ve always tried to remain positive for him. but just thinking more realistically now. idk what to do. i am torn by not wanting to say things that would just hurt him but also be as honest. he just says he wants more chances to work on the other stuff.