Looking for perspective before I consider approaching our head coach. I want to make sure I'm not overreacting.

Background

I was an assistant coach for the last two seasons. I handled the lineup a lot, and my philosophy was simple: randomize it. My daughter batted first, last, and everywhere in between. Same for the head coach's daughter. We had a girl who got one hit all season, and she still rotated through the whole order. Same approach in the field. I didn't care if someone dropped half the balls at first and gave up extra bases. That's little league. That's development. The less-developed players don't improve when the coach's kid gets all the premium reps.

What I'm seeing this season

I'm not coaching this year, and I've been reading up on "Daddy Ball" because that's unfortunately what it looks like to me.

• Batting order: The head coach's and assistant coaches' kids all bat 1-5. Every single game. The remaining girls split into a middle group (played before, reasonably skilled) and a bottom group (newer players). The same 4 girls rotate through the middle, the same 3-4 rotate through the bottom. It hasn't changed all season.
• Pitching: Three girls account for over 80% of pitched innings. The HC's daughter has thrown close to 15 innings across 10 games. My daughter has thrown 1, despite consistently asking for the opportunity all season.
• Field positions: More developed players are never really asked to hold a weaker position. Less developed players don't get the higher value reps and actual development.

My read: the girls in the middle and bottom of the order are getting robbed of development. The middle group can handle more, and the bottom group needs more challenge. My daughter is in the middle group.

The question

For rec ball at the 8-9 year old level, specifically: is it reasonable to expect lineup variety and shared pitching opportunities? Or am I off base and this kind of structure is just the norm at this age? I'd half expect this in a travel ball setup, but in rec league it's leaving me sick after every game.

I want a grounding before I even think about raising this with the coach.