Most people probably aren’t trying to disrespect the place on purpose, and most hosts aren’t trying to be overly strict either. It just feels like everyone has a different idea of what’s normal.
Like one guest thinks late-night noise is fine because they’re on vacation or assume something is included / allowed because it wasn’t clearly mentioned.
Then small misunderstandings turn into tension really fast.
Feels like a lot of issues could probably be avoided if expectations were just clearer upfront on both sides.