u/SideEquivalent3339

Helping your loved ones daily and being primary caregiver is a reason not to work and NOT carry on as business as usual, ( it is urgent at times to drop it all to caregive) but not living life fully as a blood relative son or daughter observer claiming it is all too much but just watching from the sidelines frozen?

And helping occassionally or just watching is not an excuse to stop growing and living your life ... esp if someone else mostly has it covered

Ditching the life you can have to "watch the decline" from the sidelines while others caregive a parent( medicaid funded LTC or spousal or other ) and using it as an excuse to not live fully is and can break the heart of a parent with Parkinsons . So if you are out there just watching a parent decline and someone or others have caregiving covered, don't stop living staying frozen on the sidelines using your parents parkinsons as an excuse not to live your life fully waiting until you can help more??? Live !!!

Not doing so is the worst gift you can give a parent or yourself with a progressive disease or chronic illness of any sort!

The best gift (if you are only a observer )is to live your life fully

and be happy cuz believe me it is what your parents would want ( particularly if all of this hard stuff is covered ... and for real)

sons or daughters spouses etc ( usually blood relatives) live fully

cease being that frozen observer

I see it everywhere

I see you

go out there and live

if someone has it all covered

You do not need to be a faux caregiver ... go and do your thing