Over the decades, there has been a lot of noise around stay at home mothers. How hard it is, exhausting and stressful. I believe Oprah one time said it is the hardest job in the world. Although yes it can be difficult, exhausting, and stressful: but guess what so is so many other jobs and there plenty of jobs that are incredibly difficult. I don't see what the big deal is. I have 2 grown boys and for a large portion of their lives I raised them myself.

And for those who want to attack, I raised them. I did not throw them in front of screens, delegate, or do the bare minimum. I raised them. From an actual stay at home Dad to full on single parent. Stay at home parenting was a cake walk compared to most jobs. I don't know what the complaining is about. Have you ever worked on an oil rig? Have you ever started a business from scratch and grew it.

Again, for those who are attempting to attack. I am not talking about special needs kids or being in an abusive relationship. Just pure stay at home parenting. Piece of cake. So is stay at home mothering so different, or are they just natural complainers regardless of their job/

What's the big deal?

More and more people and are becoming victims these days. Constantly blaming everyone but themselves. Other generations, government, schools, groups, etc etc. So tired of it. There is no gender gap, pay gap, political gaps....its a discipline gap. So many do not want to put the effort in to get healthy, fit, or financially successful. It takes work, failure, time, and sacrifices. Yes there are exceptions to this. Some get a bad set of cards, and that sucks. But for the vast majority, you are all getting lazy and want things handed to you. Thoughts?

Lets say you have been married 5-10 years now while reading this post. If you met your current spouse back then ( and they were like the way they are right now), would you have married them? This is a good test for a lot of things in life but in regard to marriage, what would you do?

Getting married is the second most significant legal thing a person goes through next to death. Making that leap with a person is a huge risk. Here is what I think should be required before the county issues a marriage certificate. Each person has to do the following and discuss the findings

1. Criminal Background Check

2. Mental Health Evaluation

3. Credit Check

4. Complete Financial Disclosure ( income, debt, net worth)

5. Blood Work

6. Full Medical Exam

7. Fertility's Test ( If kids are desired)

8. Prenuptial Agreement

What does everyone think?

Have you ever noticed how a lot of women complain and don't like it when their men are sick, tired, or worn out. I have seen the rants on Reddit too. Things like " my man is sick and I hate it, why is that?" I have heard from friends, family, and experienced it myself.

Well, I asked an evolutionary psychologist about this one time. She said, that the sickness is a sign of weakness and at the moment the man is unable to protect and provide. Its a biological response and they don't even know why. The other part is that they wont be getting any attention from their man and God forbid they give their man attention at that moment.

Oh the female wiring.

Ok, let the haters come.

If a 45-year-old man dates a 23-year-old woman, society wastes no time labeling it. Words like "creepy," "predatory," and "power imbalance" get thrown around instantly.

What about money gap relationships? I am NOT saying this all men and women. But I think you all see where I am going.

Why the double standard?

Why do people , get so upset or opinionated about this. Outside of those rare exceptions of an older controlling man. I have come across the happiest couples where there is like 15-20 years difference. One example was a couple I know. She is 28 and he is 52 and they are incredibly happy. She loves his confidence, his calmness, financial situation, and maturity. He loves her energy, nurturing behavior, and her interests. He is very fit and takes care of himself and they been together for about 5 years now.

She was so tired of the guys her age with no drive, no focus on their fitness, cant communicate, etc. He was tired of the grumpiness of those in his age range.

There is no formula for a happy relationship. Everyone thinks there are these boxes you need fit into, to equate to it. Sorry, millions of couples of same same age or maybe a few years difference that break up and divorce every year.

What do you think? If they are happy and care for each other, who cares. Vitality is important than a number.

Have you noticed that we tell women they can do it all and we do not tell this to men? Like chase a career, be a mom, and whatever else all at the same time. And then we have this entire generation of women who are exhausted, sad, and not really engaged in either one fully. I am not saying all women. I am saying most. Why is this message not being told to men? There are valid reasons.

Plus the number cause of stress for women is from their work/career. And the number one cause for men is their home life. Ironic huh?