[PA] Interviewing at the company my partner (not married) works at, but have some questions
To preface my overall situation - my partner (we are not married) and I met at a previous company, but did not start our relationship until after I left. He has since left and gone somewhere else. We work in the same industry, but in different departments.
I have been at my current company for a bit, but am looking for a better environment, increase in pay and a better role. My partner has been at his current company for about 1.5 years and is doing very well and is up for promotion, etc. it’s also a place in which a lot of our previous coworkers at first job moved to, so I know a number of people over there already. One of whom, a friend of both of ours, is the one who REFERRED ME and let me know that roles in my position were opening (she got to me first, my bf didn’t even know).
My partner and I spoke a little bit about it before I gave my colleague my resume to pass on and he was of the opinion that he wasn’t sure how it would look for him, BUT wanted me to interview and see if it would be a good move and we’d figure it out from there. Now that I have an interview scheduled, I’m honestly getting a little nervous. My partner is nervous it will affect his career or how people see him, and I’m also a tad nervous and don’t want to disrupt his flow.
My questions are…
* At what point do you even alert anyone that you’re in a relationship with someone at the company?
* Should I even be interviewing, should I backtrack? And if so, what do I say to cancel my Friday interview?
* It’s possible this would be a lateral move/not enough $$ compared to my current salary & benefits - if this is the case, what’s the best way to let them know that?
I am worried it will look poorly on me to cancel an interview and/or tell them “actually, my current role is still better than this offer”, but I’m sure this happens often and if he stays there forever I’d never really try to apply there again.
Any advice greatly appreciated. My initial reaction is to potentially just cancel this or work my way out of it after an interview even if it IS a good career move for me…