u/Status-Quantity-3556

I work PRN at a hospital. I started looking for something else because the new semester is about to start. When I was hired, the shift was supposed to be during the day, but lately they've only been giving me night shifts, and I can't work overnight shifts and then go to lectures. So I accepted another job that's closer to me, has normal hours because they close at night, and pays much more.

a few weeks ago, I sent my resignation through their employee portal. It was supposed to go to all the managers above me. Then today, my supervisor called me, left a voicemail, and sent me a text around 7:45 in the morning. I was asleep and it woke me up. She said they had only just seen it and rejected it because they assumed I must have sent it by mistake.

I told her it wasn't a mistake, I resigned. I said that because that was literally the last shift I worked, and I'm not on the schedule again. So as far as I'm concerned, I'm done. She told me that's not valid and that it doesn't work that way.

But it literally does work that way? I know I submitted it only 15 days before my next shift, but I'm starting my new job before then and I'm not going in. And also, the attitude and the whole thing about them "rejecting" my resignation isn't exactly making me want to help them out here.

My anxiety is really high right now. I just want to curl up and cry because I swear I didn't do anything wrong.

I just wanted to say this somewhere, honestly...

I started eating while working instead of taking a proper lunch, and since my break isn't paid anyway, I've been able to leave early. Honestly, I feel like I've gotten a big part of my life back.

I know I'm lucky that I can afford to do this financially. I have a small place where I live with my friend and our dog, and getting home early has become really nice.

Now I finish work, go to the gym, come back and cook dinner, and it's still around the same time I used to clock out from work.

That's pretty much it. If your job allows it and you can make it work money-wise, I genuinely recommend trying it.

I'm in a very stressful situation and need to see this from the perspective of people who aren't emotionally involved in it. I've been working at my current tech company for 8 years. My performance here has been good, and I've always been one of the strongest people at work, but the culture is exhausting, there are difficult personalities to deal with, and this place has a known pattern of draining people and pushing them into burnout without paying them what they deserve.

For a long time, they kept telling me there was a path ahead for me to reach a director-level role, but nothing concrete ever happened. When I asked for a fair raise at the beginning of April, they told me the budget wasn't there. That was pretty much the push I needed, so I started interviewing, and in the end I got an excellent offer from a competing company.

I accepted the new offer and submitted my resignation. Then suddenly, my current company came back to me with a very large counteroffer that's higher than the new job offer, along with a written career roadmap showing the roles they say I'll move into and the salary increases tied to each step. Honestly, I was mentally checked out and ready for a clean start somewhere else, but now I've started second-guessing everything because the money isn't insignificant.

And this is the part that's confusing me. If it had been a small raise, I would have left easily. But the number is big enough to make me stop and think, even though I know all the reasons that made me want to leave in the first place. For the past few nights, I haven't been able to sleep and I've been thinking about it, and I feel completely stuck between the safe and familiar choice and the chance to start over somewhere else.

What would you do if you were in my place? I can share the actual salary numbers if that would make the advice easier. Thanks to anyone who read all of this.

After a lot of thinking and reviewing the situation carefully, this is what I came to. The counteroffer feels like just a manipulation, not a real solution. I was underpaid, and honestly, I feel like they took advantage of me. It's time for me to leave and move on somewhere else. I'm not going to put myself in a toxic situation again, so I'll seriously reconsider the offer I received from the other company, and will try to apply all the tips mentioned in this post to be a perfect candidate for them.