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I had a great project and a great boss who always tried to get me visibility in front of important people. She was really supportive and I was really glad to work with her! I thought this company would be a great place for me to learn a lot.

I think these things are still true but it just threw me off when I had happy hour with some of the younger analysts and they just started dogging on her and saying like she wouldn’t advocate for your salary increase but my boss would and how they didn’t like her voice. I used to think they were funny and real but this interaction really affected me and it just makes me think that everyone has different sides to them in corporate. I was also the top intern, so they just kept making comments like that I’m the golden child and that’s why other intern didn’t get offer etc etc. It’s hard because I like to be genuine and honest, and this kind of space creates so much social anxiety for me.

I’m going to stick with them through this next school year, but as I’m finishing my data science degree i’m going to just lock in and try to get the best offer. I think I’ve made up my mind that culture is really nice and important, but I also have my people outside of work and I’m just going to stop stressing about work relationships. I’d rather be judged based on my technical skills than personality

Hi all, I was curious how long it took for your butterfly rashes to fade? For the most part my skin has definitely gotten a lot better but it’s still noticible on my cheeks, my eyebrows, and my ears. I typically don’t go outside but I can’t avoid it getting to my car. I’ve ordered some arm covers too. It hasn’t bothered me until this week and it’s been getting itchy

Can you guys tell me your most embarrassing moment at your internship? Today I invited a bunch of people to go to a cafe and hang out and I asked them face to face and they told me yes and they all flaked on me. It just felt mad embarrassing that I initiated plans and no one cared for them. My friend ended up pulling up and we had a good time but I’m also kind of dreading of showing up and people asking me how did it went and the only thing I can say is no one showed up

I know this has been brought up in the past before, but I’m curious about people’s experience with Lupus and issues with liver. My Gastroenterologist said I have fatty liver and I am kind of confused because I don’t eat poorly and I rarely drink. When I do drink, I drink one or two shots. For reference I am asian, I heard asians have a harder time processing alcohol, but I’m not sure if that’s related.

Is there any resources I can use to learn more about this? I am just kind of confused why my body is so bad at processing things. No fatty liver in the family either

Hey all,

I’ve been reading “When the Body Says No” by Gabor Mate, and it’s a collection of a doctor’s thoughts about how autoimmune diseases are linked to mental stress.

Personally for me, I felt that it read me to a tee. I am extremely hardworking in my life — I still balance eating good and getting sleep though. I love my family very deeply despite them being not so perfect and verbally abusive. Lately I realize I feel a lot of stress to respond to people when they present to me a need, it’s been my automatic response to be there the best I can. I find it hard to speak up if I don’t think it’s reasonable sound; just my emotions are not enough. I feel pressured to perform because my family is poor, and I do not have the liberty to make mistakes that are costly.

It’s hard to break out of it but I am trying. But another part of me also feels like we are getting punished for being the ones who care deeply and selflessly. I wish the world extended more patience and love and care instead.

Does anyone else relate? How have you incorporated changes in your life?