Need advice for facility placement and securing guardianship after baker act
Sorry for length of this post, going to keep it as concise as possible.
My father was diagnosed in 2010, and since 2020 has had bad hallucinations and delusions. My mother is currently his primary caretaker. These hallucinations have led to violent actions and threats, which have led to him being baker acted twice in the past 4 years.
Not only do I fear for my mother's safety, but I want her to live her life, instead of being yelled at and treated like crap by the person she has dedicated her life to taking care of for the past 15 years.
The problem is that because he is so far gone with the hallucinations and delusions, he refuses to give power of attorney to my mother, which means she can't even make decisions that would make the situation better, such as taking an antipsychotic medication, since he refuses.
So the current situation is: she is working with a lawyer to secure guardianship, and through that lawyer has been recommended an "advocates for the aging" company to help her find a facility that will take him. The issue is that they claim he needs to go through a 3 month "stabalization period" at a facility that costs $8k a month. This does not include the money paid to the actual company for their consulting services.
We cannot afford this. We can't even afford a month of this. My mother's house is in disarray and badly needs repairs and renovation. Of course, after decades of not being able to hold down a job and leeching off my mother as she worked a full time job, cooked all the meals, and made all the house payments, for the first time in his life my father has a bit of money from inheritance.
But of course due to the disease he is not willing to do anything useful with the money, and has already spent some of it on literal scams he's fallen for online, instead of fixing our ceiling which has water damage from 20 years ago.
The lawyers are saying that if the guardianship case is successful, the costs of the case, as well as the costs of consulting with this company, as well as the ongoing facility costs would be paid for using his money, and then medicaid would take over.
But I just can't help but feel as if we are being taken advantage of. Has anyone gone through a situation like this? Is there a way to find a good facility that medicaid would eventually accept without working with the "advocates for the aging" consulting company?