What pushes you?
21 y/o, Moved to NYC a few months ago knowing basically nobody.
Workign around 12hours a day remote, so evening I’m typically fried and I default to doom scrolling. Checked my weekly screen time report and it honestly read like a damage report.
But here’s the thing I keep coming back to - the scrolling isn’t the disease. It’s what fills the space when you have nowhere to be and nobody expecting you. Deleting TikTok doesn’t give me somewhere to go at 8pm on a Tuesday
Tried the standard fixes - timers, grayscale, deleting apps. All reversed in days, because none of them touched the actual problem: an empty evening is an empty evening.
What semi worked was forcing myself out to do one small thing alone. New coffee joint, walking a neighbourhood I’ve never been, etc. some night it feels great. some nights I talk myself out of it in 10 seconds because nobody would know either way.
So for people who lived somewhere alone - what actually got you off your phone and out the door consistently when there was zero accountability? Did you gamify it, schedule it, some form of routine? Or does this only ever get fixed by eventually making friends?
P.S. here’s a cool pic I found when I first moved here