u/TreyInStCloud

I read Frankenstein in high school and loved it. I’m looking for a book like that to read in October. Ideas?

I’m getting *really* tired of able-bodied people thinking I should take, “You’d be really pretty, if you weren’t disabled,” as a compliment. And I’m even more tired of hearing my able-bodied family members and friends say I’m being too sensitive because I *don’t* take it as a compliment - it hurts my feelings.

If someone says, “You’d be really pretty, if you cut your hair/wore makeup,” I can handle that, because I can take the advice or leave it. But I can’t do *anything* about my disability. I’ve even taken any headshots off my internet profile because people would tell me how beautiful I am, just to turn around and say they feel they’ve been lied to when I mention I’m disabled.

A few days ago, I was talking to an able-bodied friend about this, and she says I’m being too sensitive. Am I?

P.S. I’ve been in a wonderful relationship for 30 years, so I’m not worried about it from a dating perspective. I guess I just think it’s rude to comment on an aspect of someone’s body/appearance that they can’t do anything about.