u/True_Performer4647

Guys, I'm really torn about a career decision right now and I need all your opinions and experiences. A little over a year ago, I chased a bigger salary, and it completely destroyed my mental health.

About 15 months ago, an opportunity came my way without me even looking. I wasn't searching for a job at all, but the offer was very tempting - a salary increase of about 30%. I was happy where I was, but who would refuse such an amount? Apparently, I should have. This new company turned out to be a nightmare, primarily due to an incredibly stressful and toxic work environment.

Now for the surprise. My old job recently contacted me, asking if I'd consider returning to my previous position. They're offering me a salary about 11% less than what I'm currently earning. The idea is very appealing because I truly loved that job - my manager was great, my colleagues were supportive, and the work itself was enjoyable and engaging. Plus, they've evolved a bit, meaning there will still be new challenges and learning opportunities.

So the big question is: Do I accept a lower salary to return to a healthy and supportive job, or do I endure this soul-crushing place for the money? Has anyone here done something similar, sacrificing money for mental peace?

To clarify the numbers further, my current salary is around 105k, and the old company's offer is around 93k. The difference in money is obviously clear. But this morning, my wife got great news - a 6k raise at her job, which she loves very much. This significantly reduces the difference and makes the decision less daunting financially.

When I started this job a little over a year ago, I was quickly thrown into a terrible work environment. It wasn't just 'difficult' - it was destructive. After about 14 months here, I transformed from a usually happy and active father and husband into someone diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety due to these circumstances. I hit rock bottom a few months ago, genuinely struggling with dark thoughts, and gained about 60 pounds. Looking back, I think I was in denial, hoping things would improve, but anyone who has suffered from depression understands how insidious and deceptive it can be. Your past discussions and advice in this community have been very helpful, and I genuinely hope to hear more opinions as I navigate this situation.