u/Tukan0314

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Please help me with inspiration for birthday present for my ME/CFS girlfriend

My girlfriends 32th birthday is in about 4 weeks. She has ME/CFS from Long Covid since 2022. Her Bell-Score is 10, so most of the time she is mostly confined to bed or our couch (otherwise she is risking a crash).

In the last years I gifted her vouchers for little activities she liked, but as her condition worsened she could not redeem them. I remember that this made her really sad.

So this year I want to make a few gifts that she can use/have/redeem right away. But I would like your inspiration, as I am not really sure how to adjust my gifts or how to find gifts that are suitable for her condition (as mentioned Bell Score 10).

What she likes:

- she bought some old barbies recently, she said that the childhood memories made her happy (she got the ones she had as a child)

- she loves to spend time together with me. Just cuddling, watching a good Netflix show, have a good dinner (regardless of whether self cooked by myself or food delivery)

- she is really into the Harry Potter movies (already bought her all DVDs)

- she loves the autumn (the rain, the falling leaves, the cold), hates the summer (she doesn't like the warmth)

- she has her favourite sweets and snacks and kind of favourite restaurants where I order or fetch the food

- she has her favourite fruits

- she has her favourite musicians and comedians, I already bought her tickets for christmas, but we had to sell them because of her bad condition

I am really struggling to find some good ideas that will make her happy. If she would be healthy I would gift her a travel together to norway or sweden and she would be the most happy person on earth. Or a trip to London to see all the Harry Potter locations. I know that anything she likes which we could to together would make her really happy.

Some thoughts of mine:

- I thought about making her the "perfect autumn day": butter beer, Harry Potter, her favourite autumn sweets, good food etc. But autumn is still 6-8 weeks after her birthday and it will still be another voucher for later

- I thought about watching her favourite musicians or comedians on a stream/dvd and order a great dinner etc. + her favourite fruits

So I am looking for help, as the community of people who are self affected with ME/CFS migth have a good idea or inspiration.

Thanks for your help!

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u/Tukan0314 — 4 days ago