I keep choking during PhD interviews. Please send help.
I have my 5th PhD interview coming up this week, and I feel like I'm going to mess it up. Again. Both when they ask me questions and when they get to the "any questions for us?" part at the end.
My CV looks fine. Grades are there, research experience is decent, so I should be okay on paper. But I've done this 4 times now and I keep making the same mistakes. The problem is I'm naturally pretty shy, so the second I'm in that Zoom call, I completely clam up. I rehearse answers, but I end up giving these quiet, awkward, shortened responses because I'm too nervous to actually articulate what I know. I lose my train of thought, mumble my way through, and only think of the perfect thing I should have said like 5 minutes after we hang up.
It doesn't help that I'm trying to pivot into a slightly different area, so a lot of their newer techniques and jargon go over my head. I read their papers but I don't fully grasp everything, which makes me even more nervous when they ask technical questions. And at the end, I don't feel confident enough to ask anything specific without sounding like I didn't understand their work.
When they go "so, do you have any questions for us?" I just... freeze. Every single time. I either ask some painfully generic crap like "what's the lab culture like?" or I just panic and say "nope, I think you covered everything!" which makes me look unprepared and disengaged, when really I'm just too shy and lost to think of anything on the spot.
I know this is why I keep missing out on offers and I'm so tired of it.
How do I actually come out of my shell during these calls so I can give fuller answers? And does anyone have a few solid go-to questions I can just whip out at the end without having to improvise? Especially ones that work when you're still learning the field?
Pls share your scripts or hacks. I'm desperate lol.