u/Whjmj

Before me and my boyfriend got together my boyfriend would vape consistently and smoke a cigarette once a week. I told him that he would have to at least stop smoking cigarettes for us to be together long term (with obviously the goal of trying to quit smoking all together). My mom is a smoker and I grew up around the smell of cigarettes and I hate the smell with a passion. I went to the doctors a few months ago and she asked me if I smoked and I said no. Then she asked "Thats good I hope your boyfriend in the lobby doesn't either" I told her he vapes and that he used to smoke cigarettes but he quit and she said, "I'd rather he smoked cigarettes" This got me thinking for some time and I finally brought it up to him. It's so convenient for him to just hit his vape whenever. I watch him grab it so casually and usually Ill grab it after hes done and place it across the room so that theres at least more effort put into it; he has to consciously go out of his way. But it's still too convenient to just grab and hit. There would be way more road blocks if he could only smoke cigarettes. He would have to go outside AND walk a bit away from the house because we live with his mom and even though she knows he smokes, she's not proud of it and he doesn't like to smoke in front of his family. He'd also have to come inside and take a shower because he doesn't want to smell like cigarettes. It's also harder for him to even get cigarettes because he's almost 20 and for some reason its just easier to get vapes. What I'm most scared about though is that if we do do this instead, it will just backfire into him smoking a lot more cigarettes even with the road blocks. I asked him what he thinks and he said he doesnt like the idea but understands that that is the entire point, making it uncomfortable to smoke so he doesn't. And he doesn't know if it would backfire aswell saying theres like a 30% chance it might. I just think I need some advice before we make a big decision like this.

TL;DR: My boyfriend used to smoke cigarettes and vape, but quit cigarettes and now mainly vapes. I’m considering having him switch back to cigarettes and quit vaping entirely since they’re much less convenient, but I’m worried he’d just end up smoking more.