u/Wonderful-Agency9314

I (31F) am Muslim-atheist, my partner (32M) is Jewish-atheist. We both grew up in religion, oceans from each other, were very practicing as kids, individually decided to become atheists. Met 4 ish years ago, and have been together ever since due to our shared values, and just, he is a very wonderful person. And we are planning on getting married. Q: if you were in a similar situation, does it ever get better?

We both live in the U.S. in a very liberal state. He grew up orthodox, and his family is still modern-orthodox. Their reactions to our relationship have been a constant source of stress. I finally met his parents 2 years into dating, they were polite to me, but there is a marked difference in how they treat the jewish partners of his siblings versus me. Some examples: For example, they never acknowledge I exist when they call him on phone. They never ask anything about me (0 questions). They live a flight away from us. I am the only partner (his siblings have non-married partners) who is not allowed to stay overnight at his parents' house. His parents' house, for context, has 7 empty bedrooms, and in-law unit. So, we always get an Airbnb when we visit his family, and I pretend that everything is randy dandy. They are very avoidant.

This year, we finally felt like we made a lot of progress. His mom behaved *warmly and friendly*, not just 'polite', and same with his grandparents. His dad is an odd character, I stopped expecting much from him. We've been wanting to get engaged, and since I'm an immigrant, we wanted to expedite the civil ceremony for legal reasons. So, he finally tells them over phone. Their reaction was that since I'm not born Jewish, he will be exiting the Jewish community by marrying me, and that they don't/will not ever accept this since I'm not Jewish. They didn't even congratulate, ask for details, nothing. We waited a few months, he asked them again. Same response.

He is a very kind and good son, and I am heartbroken for him, and heartbroken for myself. I don't have family in the U.S., and thought his family could be mine. I am a very inclusive person, and so I'm really struggling with how to navigate this.

I came to r/atheist for a reason (and not r/muslim or r/jewish haha). I would appreciate any kind advice.

Hey guys,

I've been stuck for over a week...my sibling is visiting the U.S. for my wedding and I am trying to help her get a U.S. visa using the USTravel Docs website. Our embassy is Pakistan.

Here's what happened.

1. I removed her daughter because we wanted to fix the daughter's DS160 application, hence had a new DS160 number. I removed the daughter, let's call her Sara, from the system.

2. After removing Sara from the USvisascheduling as a dependent, I tried to add her again. It gave me the duplicate error i.e.

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3. Duh, I of course, do not have the UID. I tried to do the trick of making a fake UID application, I even tried to add slightly incorrect information i.e. I tried to give Sara a fake birth year, just so I can then go back in and correct the birth year. That trick doesn't work anymore (because you can no longer edit an applicant's information once you enter details; they seem to be 'frozen' or uneditable).

4. I tried to submit a ticket, but lol, the site is so bad. It doesn't let me upload screenshots under "feedback /requests", despite using PNG, JPG, PDF. Pakistani US travel docs number (703-988-3426) doesn't work / no way to route to a real person. Their support chat is super useless, too.

Can anyone please help me? I am desperately stuck. Thank you so much in advance