Saw My Ex-Fiancé Again
My ex-fiancé and I were together for 8 years. We got engaged in March of 2025, she went wedding dress shopping in May, and made plans to cheat while I was in the same bed as her a few days later. I was supposed to go out of town for Mother’s Day (she coincidentally couldn’t), and checked her phone for the first time.
I was shattered, but managed to hold it together for a few days while I got our lease and everything situated. Trying to separate after 8 years is tough. Her friends were also extremely mean throughout.
I moved to my home town as I was in a pretty rough mindset. She stayed in the city we were living in, and would occasionally reach out when feeling guilty. I was no contact, but she still managed to find ways of making herself shown (talking to my family and friends, passing by my house, texting me).
I eventually started feeling a lot better, and even dating again. Then I saw her for the first time again the other day.
My grandma and I try to do dinner at least once a week, and she had accidentally forgotten to pickup broccoli, so I said I’d go. I had just gotten back on my motorcycle when I lookup to see her staring at me across the lane. Not moving, just staring.
Thankfully I didn’t drop my bike, but it all hit me like a freight train.
The time I held her after her grandfather passed, when she held me, when we’d stay up laughing all night, bringing home a new kitten, all the trips we took, the friends we made, how our family’s loved us, how we knew everything about each other all came back. So I just started my bike and rode off without saying anything.
I can’t know if she felt the same way, but I hope she did. Not because I want her to feel the same pain I did in that moment or the split. She’s still someone I love and care about unfortunately. It’s the longing to hear our relationship was as real for her as it was for me.