Work bestie resentment
So, I had a work bestie who I used to talk to and share pretty much everything with. There were many times in 2021, 2022, and even 2023 when I wanted to leave my job.
In 2023, I came back from vacation, got up one day, got out of my seat, and said, “You know what? I’m going to quit this job.” I told her to follow me to HR, and honestly, she didn’t even try to talk me out of it or anything.
I ended up leaving that job and stayed home working on my business until I eventually got a new job in 2025.
Fast-forward to 2026, she ended up getting laid off along with a few of the coworkers we both knew from that time. Now she’s out here applying for jobs for herself and helping some of those former coworkers look for opportunities too.
What makes me think about it is that she was never really the type to talk you out of leaving a job. But I just figured that, as my work bestie and someone I was so close to, she would have at least given me some encouragement or made me stop and think about it. Not that it necessarily would have changed my decision, but I thought she would have at least tried. Even after I left she said she missed me etc.
There were plenty of times when she wanted to leave that job, and I was the one talking her through it. I would remind her that she didn’t have the financial stability yet, that she didn’t have another job lined up, and that she needed to think things through before making a decision.
So, I guess I just expected that when it was my turn, I would get that same kind of support from her. Maybe that’s why it still stands out to me. It wasn’t necessarily that I wanted her to stop me from quitting, I think I just wanted to feel like she cared enough to say, “Are you sure? Let’s think about this first.”
We still talk all the time and hang out occasionally, but I still got a lil resentment. How should I feel?