u/bambiraptorfan

i have many but i'll try to narrow it down to a top three

- common sparrow: in the city where i lived there were unfortunately not many sparrows at all bc they had been outcompeted by the crows and pigeons. but whenever i visited my grandparents i would always be woken up every morning by them chirping. we had lots of them there because right opposite their house was a rice warehouse and they would all show up to eat every morning when the trucks came and rice fell out of the bags. so sparrows are a very rare and precious sight to me and i am always very excited to see them

- parrot/parakeet: i have a great affection for these birds and have always wanted to keep one because they live for very long and i think i would like a long lived animal friend. i once saw a parrot in a cage at a pet shop and just stood there frozen for a few minutes watching it as it climbed all around its cage. it made eye contact with me for a few seconds and its eyes were so intelligent and i felt so sorry for it. but as it turned out the parrot was not for sale and it and the owner were best friends and he got it out of the cage and it happily climbed all over him. which made me happy.

-peregrine falcon: when i was younger i loved peregrine falcons best because they were so fast and looked so cool. according to wikipedia they are found all over the world nearly but i have never seen one irl which makes me very sad. they are very interesting birds.

special mentions to crows whom i have always wanted to make friends with and also to bambiraptor, the coolest and cutest almost-bird ever!!!

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it is annoying to see self-consciously coquette 15 year old lana stans posting their very inane takes i agree... but as someone who has been accused of fawngirling (strawberry fawn was a cute username and i stand by it) i really do not see why they invite such disdain. there are many demographics that are a lot more annoying and they don't even post baby animal pictures to help lower the cortisol spikes their bad takes cause. the vitriol directed at fawn girls should in fact be directed at the following groups of people: snark sub users, pansexual people, irishboos, etc etc.

my new friend (male) is genuinely surprised by the goodness of strangers. which i pwrspnally think is stupjd bc what does a young straight non balding non short man experience to think rhat goodness is an exception and not a rule. me personally i have been extremely stupid and people have always been kinder to me than i thought i deswrved.

i was jn a state of anhedonia that woumd have probably druven me ro suicise were it not fkr thw kindness kf a few pepple.. for uears and years i felt like all true emotion and feeling was locked behind a glass wall. something i coukd see but never touch. but i fell in love (unrequkted) and it really cjanged me. you know how people say its not love unless its reciprovayed? i dont believe that. in my heart i knew it would never be returned amd i didnt care. some would reduce it to a feeling as cheap sounding as infatuation. if i posted this on r girldinner i would probably have ten comments about limerence rn . but to be honest i dlnt think thwre is such a thinv as limerence. i rwally did love him with everuthjng i had in me. and it was like a gateway druv. once i experienced the hprrific highs and lows of love i was open to everhthing. i was nkt locked behind glass any moew, cursed to witness and never feel. once i felt love i felt everything else. it chaneged my life dkr the better even tho it wa s unrequkted. it was the sort of thing people write novels about. i refyse to cheapen it by calling it infatuation or a crush. everything that i am, i am bevause i loved enough that it removed every wall i had ever constructed.

the thiny is when i started posting on jere u couodnt believe how bad off i was. likw it waz literally over. ive foynd good friends on here tho and good people in general. i know rsp twnds toward nihilism but i think being here has made me beliebe in human goodness more than most orher onljne spaces. this iz not ti say that onkine sruff is at all a replacement fof offline loneliness it is not. do everything in ur pwer to build a life off of here. but still. u are all good people. capable of building a life better rhan u can kmagine. thats all. love u pinkdcarers

often i feel like there is a gaping wound in me from which too much spills out without me meaning to do it. too many words and too many fears. i feel like an animal with its belly constantly exposed, and while i am frantically trying to escape from the bear trap people are asking me questions. what are you going to do? where are you going to go? have you finished reviewing your resume yet? is it ATS compliant? please shut up i am trying to escape from the trap!! can't you see i'm about to cut my own leg off, trying as hard as i am to live? but i must smile and tell them this trap is all i have ever wanted, i must throw myself at their mercy and hope they take pity on me. pity is really all i can hope for. it is a very embarrassing position to be in, for someone like me. people used to look up to me. but it is all fine i will gather myself up and i know i will be okay eventually. there are stupider people than me who have made it. i am making it better so it will become better. it's just taking so very long. and i need to become skinnier too

the specific kind of man who claims to prefer cats seems to invariably turn out to be either evil or gay. or both. my proof: my evil male friend, my gay male friend, the denizens of r/redscarepod. etcetera etcetera. the equivalent of men who like clairo and laufey. just strange. disingenuous. worthy of both study and caution.

my new year's resolution was to attempt to fix my various ailments through a diet based on galen's classification of foods. i determined that i was excessively bilious (of both the yellow and black varieties) and sought to remedy this by introducing more foods of a phlegmatic and sanguine inducing nature. it is important to note that despite blood being the best humor, it is still possible to become a touch overblooded - and in these cases i would simply reduce the sanguine foods to allow for greater balance. i have also created a chart of various common foods and assigned humors to them, based on the qualities galen himself used as a basis for his classification.

some changes i've noticed as my humors balanced: more social, more jocular, somewhat less neurotic and a decided decrease in depressive episodes. overall a win.

I got downboated for being biphobic ... what is going on!!!!!

My beautiful mind cannot be domesticated and settled by the comfort of true love and god probably made me for greater things. 50 years from now i will have an extensive wikipedia page and no husband. :(

Being lectured by a pansexual she/they with adhd (high functioning) about why it's important to cultivate diversity in MBB consulting. Meanwhile I a #trve low functioning regard would never even be interviewed by these overachieving nerds on account of my trash gpa. Absolutely incredible work! They've passed out little papers where we can write down our questions, presumably so they can be screened. I have written down a question about this and am looking forward to the answer.

Women are so randomly closed off and shy and never initiate conversation unless you act like basically a golden retriever for the first month, like going out of your way to be overly friendly and bright and cheerful and agreeable and welcoming with zero reciprocation until they accept you as a friend after 2 months and even then only talk about their annoying boyfriends.

Men take any instance of you being friendly as an opportunity to fuck as long as you meet their low baseline standard of attractiveness. Try to set a boundary and these types will somehow find a way to blame you so they can deflect attention from their own inappropriate overtures. The only way to enforce platonic relationships is to have a man already whose claim they'll respect more than any hint or outright assertion you give of not being interested.

I just want to make friends!! I'm not even a shut-in or autistic, and people always seem to like me, but women are just so shy and men will always see you as a potential fuck. But I'd still prefer a woman's extremely hard won platonic friendship so I guess I'm going to force myself to be really happy and bright for the next few months until I have a big friend group. Do you know how fucked up it is that I'm being forced to act pseudomanic just to make friends because all the actual extroverts have become jaded and dull through peter thiel's judicious promotion of antisocial behaviour through instagram reels

the sub is now restricted to approved users only, for both posting and commenting. we will continue to approve users based on post history in rs subs. originally i wanted the sub to remain public, because having to approve people on post history seemed a bit gatekeep-y and restrictive, and also time consuming. but i tested out restriction over the weekends to see if it helped, and i felt like it did. the number of approved users has also increased by a lot, and we will add users as they request, so hopefully we can all still have engaging catfights in the comments.

since the specter of front page posters no longer looms over us, i have also removed or relaxed a lot of the rules previously in place. posts containing the words men, dating, and hinge, among others, will no longer be auto-blocked from submission (this is just to help out users tangentially mentioning these things. relationship L posts will still be removed, and everyone is encouraged to use the thread instead). styling rec posts are allowed now. culture and gender war bait are still discouraged, and selfie posting remains banned. though the sub will definitely be quieter, i feel like this should allow people to post more freely while also decreasing the need to moderate.

if any of you have any other suggestions, lmk

r/trueuglywomen - i do think they have some points, certainly a woman's appearance is one of the most significant factors in how she's treated by the people around her, but i can't help but think it's going to dissolve soon (perhaps has already dissolved?) into the kind of undiluted toxicity and dooming of regular incel spaces. i just don't get how, if indeed they are ugly beyond hope, fixating on it in such an echo chamber is supposed to do anything beyond giving people the most superficial sense of community. give it some time and a few impressionable teenagers and i think that place might have a body count soon.

i plug numbers into da spreadsheet, i go for my daily walk, i see the birds and the rats and i think about how they get to live for free and i resent them for it, i pray to god that i may either attain moksha or failing that be reincarnated as a pampered dog to a DINK couple, i come home and doomscroll, when i am not distracted by my screen i am psychically tortured by images of my substantial student loans, i wish once more for a nice life, one with a job i somewhat enjoy and that pays me well, one with an apartment in a walkable neighbourhood, one with a husband and perhaps a little fat baby or two to pour all my love into, i go to sleep. fuck my chungus life etc etc

i'm starting my mba soon (very exciting!) but am worried about a few things. my undergrad gpa is so trash that it's kind of a miracle i even got into the program and i worry about how it'll affect my prospects in the fields i want to be in (ideally life science consulting, though i'm open to stuff like marketing, strategy, and general management as long as it's also in some sort of life science adjacent space).

i have already started doing things within my control, like looksmaxxing and learning tableau 🤒 do you guys have any advice? i like to think i'm quite charming (see: miraculous admit) but i've heard from people that recruiters are likely to filter me out bc of my undergrad gpa and lack of work experience meaning i won't even be able to make it to the interview stage 💀 if ur wondering why i'm bothering with an mba, it's because it'll still give me better prospects than my unemployable bio undergrad degree and the university provides a lot of support in getting people jobs. so i know i'll probably get a job of some kind, but i want to maximise my chances of getting one that i like and also one that lets me redeem myself in my parents' eyes

literally why do i even bother